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BIFF at Work

Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication
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BIFF at Work provides a practical guide to handling hostile workplace communications using the proven BIFF method. This approach helps defuse conflicts arising from misinformation, blame, and anger in emails, letters, and conversations. With clear instructions and real-world examples, the book focuses on improving internal and external workplace interactions through Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm responses. It also offers advice on coaching colleagues to maintain professional boundaries and reduce risks from toxic behaviour, workplace bullying, and difficult clients.
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This book is essential for professionals seeking to improve workplace communication, human resources personnel, managers, and anyone looking to manage conflict calmly and effectively in a professional environment.

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Hostile emails, letters and conversations can drain inordinate amounts of time, emotional energy and expense in the workplace. For over a dozen years, the BIFF method of communicating has helped thousands of people calm conflicts and create clear communication in response to misinformation, blame, and unnecessary anger in writing or in-person. Th

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Hostile emails, letters, and conversations can drain inordinate amounts of time, emotional energy, and expense in the workplace. For over a dozen years, the BIFF method of communicating has helped thousands of people calm conflicts and create clear communication in response to misinformation, blame, and unnecessary anger in writing or in-person.

This new book focuses exclusively on workplace conflictsβ€”internal and externalβ€”with instructions on how to use the four-step method, along with numerous examples of what works and what does not. These examples are designed to demonstrate potential pitfalls. It also includes tips on how to coach co-workers and others on writing effective BIFF responses to customers, clients, employees, and managersβ€”instead of becoming consumed in unhealthy back-and-forth conversations.

Using BIFF at Work with toxic teammates, workplace bullies, or threatening customers and clients can reduce the risk of lawsuits and complaints. Moreover, it can make everyone feel more confident in workplace relationships. The BIFF approach is simple, practical, and can help you achieve the communication outcomes you want by diffusing tension, containing conflict, and establishing professional boundaries.

Brief, Informative, Friendly, and Firm: use BIFF to lower your blood pressure, turn down the conflict flame, and restore your confidence.

Series: BIFF Conflict Communication Series

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781950057122

Publisher: HCI Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 27 May 2021

Country: United States

Imprint: HCI Press

Illustration: 4 images + numerous charts per chapter

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 215.0mm

Height: 139.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 200

About the Author

Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute. He was Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve year's experience. He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries where he's taught conflict communication with his BIFF Response and EAR Statement methods to over half a million people worldwide. In addition to writing over twenty books, his blog on PsychologyToday.com has over 5 million views. Bill lives in San Diego, California with his wife.

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