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So, What's Your Proposal?
Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds!
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You might enjoy this book if you are interested in improving your communication and conflict-resolution skills. It offers practical advice on making effective proposals in personal and professional interactions, emphasising a structured approach to problem-solving and negotiation. Ideal for those seeking to enhance their interpersonal effectiveness and reduce conflicts.
An amazingly simple technique for getting high-conflict people to stop blaming others, and instead join in finding solutions to problems.
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Complain! Complain! Complain! Have you ever dealt with high-conflict people who blame you or others for one problem after another without taking any responsibility themselves? Don't you feel like wringing their necks?
Instead, consider the simple method taught in this book for getting them out of the past and away from blaming everyone else. Get them to quickly focus on the future, take responsibility and contribute to finding solutions to problems, including those they created themselves or any problem.
When people complain and blame you, you don't need to defend yourself or get angry back. Just calmly say: So, what's your proposal? and focus on teaching the simple 3-step method explained in this book. This method will help you stay calm and confident, while earning the respect of those around you, even those who want to blame you!
And blame is abundant these days! Every day dozens, if not hundreds, of people confront us at work, at the store, in our communities, and online. Nerves get on edge. More and more people get stuck blaming others for anything that goes wrong. With high-conflict people increasing in society, with the 24-hour news cycle, and with Twitter, Facebook and the Internet, we hear constantly about the worst behaviour of other people and dozens of terrible problems. The strong temptation is to react and blame others back. However, this just feeds the problem.
This book shifts the conversation from the past and blame, to the future and problem-solving. The book teaches a simple method which can be used by almost anyone. It will help the reader stay calm and confident, while also keeping the focus on solving problems, rather than blaming people.
But it takes practice, which is why this book gives so many examples. The reader will earn the respect of those around him or her. We have seen it happen over and over again, many times in just 30 seconds.
Another helpful tool to communicate effectively with high-conflict people is BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Hostile Email, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns, also by Bill Eddy.
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So, What's Your Proposal? by Bill Eddy receives praise for its practical guidance on transforming conflicts into creative solutions. Reviewers highlight its effectiveness in dealing with difficult individuals, emphasising a three-step process that shifts discussions from blame to problem-solving. The book is deemed an essential resource for professionals engaged in negotiations, offering tools to foster flexible thinking and generate constructive outcomes.
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ISBN: 9781936268627
Publisher: HCI Press
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 30 October 2014
Country: United States
Imprint: HCI Press
Illustration: Illustrations
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Width: 139.0mm
Height: 215.0mm
Weight: 212g
Pages: 150
About the Author
Bill Eddy is the author of several books about dealing with high-conflict people - the most difficult "difficult" people. Bill is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of the High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory and has become an expert on managing legal, workplace and other disputes involving high-conflict personalities and personality disorders.
His books include:
It's All Your Fault at Work! Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People
So What's Your Proposal? Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds
High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
It's All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
He is also the developer of the "New Ways for Work" method of managing potentially high conflict employees in the workplace; and the "New Ways for Families" method of managing potentially high-conflict parents in and out of family court.
A graduate of Case Western Reserve University, San Diego State University, and the University of San Diego School of Law, he lives in San Diego, CA with his wife.
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