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The Nice Girl Syndrome

Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- and Start Standing Up for Yourself
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In The Nice Girl Syndrome, Beverly Engel explores the tendency of individuals, often women, to be overly accommodating and the risks it poses to personal happiness and success. The book offers guidance on recognising and breaking free from the patterns of excessive niceness, empowering readers to assert themselves and establish healthier boundaries in their personal and professional relationships. Engel provides practical advice and exercises to help readers develop the confidence to stand up for themselves while still maintaining kindness and empathy.
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You might enjoy this book if you're looking to break free from patterns of people-pleasing and self-sabotage, and wish to embrace assertiveness and self-worth. It offers practical strategies to help you build confidence, set boundaries, and cultivate healthier relationships.

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A noted therapist helps women overcome the pressure to please and begin living life on their own terms Engel's new book tackles the "nice girl syndrome" for women who have been raised to please those in their lives - at home and at the workplace.

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How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves.

Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If any of this sounds familiar, read The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself.

Engel explains that women today simply cannot afford to be Nice Girls, since "nice girls" are much more likely to be victimisedβ€”emotionally, physically, and sexuallyβ€”than those who are not so "nice." She identifies seven different types of Nice Girls and helps you understand which type might apply to you. She helps you determine whether the Nice Girl Syndrome is keeping you in an abusive relationship or in manipulative situations, and helps you challenge and change Nice Girl beliefs and behaviours that are holding you back.

  • Helps you confront the beliefs and behaviours that keep you stuck in a Nice Girl act as you replace them with healthier, more empowering ones.
  • Includes inspiring stories of women Engel has worked with who have found the courage and strength to stop taking abuse and start standing up for themselves.

"This book will challenge, entertain, and empower its readers." - Publishers Weekly (starred review)

Written by renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognise and leave emotionally abusive relationships. Filled with wise advice, powerful exercises, and practical prescriptions, The Nice Girl Syndrome shows you step by step how to take control of your life and be your own strong woman.

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The Nice Girl Syndrome by Beverly Engel is praised for its empowering approach to helping women break free from societal conditioning that encourages passivity and compliance. Reviewers appreciate how the book offers practical advice and real-life examples for overcoming ingrained beliefs that hinder assertiveness and self-confidence. Some readers note that the strategies and insights provided can lead to significant personal growth and improved decision-making in relationships and professional settings.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780470179383

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons Inc

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 12 August 2008

Country: United States

Imprint: John Wiley & Sons Inc

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 23.0mm

Width: 163.0mm

Height: 241.0mm

Weight: 463g

Pages: 256

About the Author

Beverly Engel, an internationally recognized expert in emotional abuse and a licensed marriage and family therapist for thirty years, is the executive director of Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County. She is the author of numerous successful books, including Healing Your Emotional Self, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, and Loving Him without Losing You. Engel has appeared on many national television shows, including Oprah, Starting Over, Donahue, Ricki Lake, and Sally Jessy Raphael, and her work is frequently featured in national magazines and newspapers such as O: The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Psychology Today, the Washington Post, and the Los Angeles Times.

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