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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing
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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel delves into the dynamics of emotional abuse, providing insights into recognising and understanding its impact. It offers guidance on identifying the signs of such relationships, why they occur, and how individuals can begin the healing process. It also suggests strategies for rebuilding self-esteem and creating healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
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You might find this book valuable if you're looking to understand and heal from emotionally abusive relationships. It offers insights into recognising the signs of emotional abuse and provides guidance on rebuilding your self-esteem and emotional health. Perfect for those seeking empowerment and support on their journey toward healthier relationships.

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A step-by-step guide to help both victims of emotional abuse and their abusers escape unhealthy patterns originating from childhood abuse and neglect

In the second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, internationally recognised therapist Beverly Engel walks readers through a proven programme designed to help readers get to the core of their unhealthy behaviour patterns.

This book was written specifically for two types of couplesβ€”those who mutually abuse each other and those with abusive partners who are willing to honestly look at themselves and make the necessary changes to stop abusing. Unique among books of this type, Engel focuses on both the abused person and the abuser, offering non-judgemental advice to both groups. She offers effective strategies, techniques, and information to end abusive behaviours, including:

  • Why some people are attracted to abusive people and vice versa
  • Patterns created from childhood neglect and abuse and how to break them
  • Determining if you or your partner suffers from a personality disorder such as Narcissism or Borderline Personality Disorder
  • How to decide whether to continue the relationship or end it
  • The importance of healing shame caused by childhood neglect and abuse
  • How self-compassion can help heal both victims of emotional abuse and the abusers themselves

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship is essential for those involved in unhealthy relationships or who have loved ones trapped in an emotionally abusive situation. Therapist recommended, this book is also a must-read resource for students of psychotherapy.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781394171545

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons Inc

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 24 July 2023

Country: United States

Imprint: Sybex Inc.,U.S.

Edition: 2nd edition

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 18.0mm

Width: 183.0mm

Height: 226.0mm

Weight: 386g

Pages: 272

About the Author

Beverly Engel, LMFT, is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and an acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of twenty-three self-help books, including Loving Him without Losing You, Healing Your Emotional Self, and The Nice Girl Syndrome. Beverly frequently lends her expertise to national television shows and has appeared on Oprah, CNN, and Starting Over. She has a blog on the Psychology Today website and has been featured in publications including O, The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, and more.

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