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Stop Walking on Eggshells for Partners
What to Do When Your Partner Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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In a relationship with someone who has BPD or NPD? You deserve clarity, safety, and the power to choose what’s right for you. If your romantic partner, spouse, husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend struggles with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), you may...
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People in relationships with those suffering from borderline personality disorder often feel manipulated or abused. Partners can find themselves “walking on eggshells” to avoid confrontation. Randi Kreger presents skills to help partners establish boundaries, communicate effectively, and make the decision to stay or leave in a safe way.
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In a relationship with someone who has BPD or NPD? You deserve clarity, safety, and the power to choose what’s right for you.
If your romantic partner, spouse, husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend struggles with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), you may feel trapped in a cycle of gaslighting, emotional abuse, blame, and high-conflict arguments. You may question your reality, feel trauma bonded, or struggle with codependency and fear of separation. Whether you are married, dating, considering divorce, or navigating coparenting in a high-conflict custody battle, the emotional toll can be overwhelming.
It is not your fault.
From the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, BPD and narcissism expert Randi Kreger offers a practical survival guide for romantic partners living with, loving, or leaving someone with BPD or NPD. Grounded in research and informed by DBT (dialectical behaviour therapy) principles developed by Marsha Linehan, this guide provides clear tools to help you protect yourself, set boundaries, and make confident decisions about your relationship.
In this book, you’ll learn how to:
- Recognise patterns of gaslighting, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, and covert manipulation
- Understand trauma bonding, codependent dynamics, and high-conflict relationship cycles
- Set strong boundaries and defuse explosive arguments safely
- Evaluate whether to stay, separate, divorce, or pursue counselling
- Navigate coparenting, custody battles, and post-separation conflict
- Rebuild self-trust, emotional resilience, and long-term recovery
Whether you choose to work on your marriage, seek separation, or move toward divorce, this compassionate, no-nonsense guide helps you step out of confusion and into clarity. You’ll gain the understanding, coping skills, and confidence needed to protect your well-being and create a more peaceful future.
You are not stuck. There is a way forward—and you can move toward safety, strength, and a healthier life.
Book Details
INFORMATION
ISBN: 9781608824878
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 31 October 2024
Country: United States
Imprint: New Harbinger Publications
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 20.0mm
Width: 152.0mm
Height: 226.0mm
Weight: 414g
Pages: 312
About the Author
Randi Kreger is coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells, and author or coauthor of three other books: The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook, The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, and Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents. Kreger is owner and moderator of the Moving Forward family support group, which can be accessed at her website: www.stopwalkingoneggshells.com. She has given presentations throughout the United States and in Japan. She also has a one-on-one coaching practice which can be accessed through her website.
Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, is a family lawyer, therapist, and mediator in San Diego, CA. He is cofounder and chief innovation officer at High Conflict Institute, and trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and counselors worldwide in respectfully managing high-conflict disputes and personalities. He is author of more than twenty books and manuals, developer of the New Waysfor Families method for separation and divorce, and blogger for Psychology Today with more than six million views. His website is www.highconflictinstitute.com.
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