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Polywise

A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships
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Polywise delves into the evolving landscape of polyamory and consensual nonmonogamy, addressing the challenges beyond the initial transition from monogamous relationships. Psychotherapist Jessica Fern draws from extensive clinical experience to explore the root causes of common difficulties such as broken agreements, communication issues, and jealousy. The book offers a practical framework and strategies for turning these obstacles into paths for deeper connection and clarity, guiding readers to not just survive but thrive in open relationships.
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This book is ideal for individuals and couples exploring or engaged in consensual nonmonogamy, as well as therapists and professionals supporting polyamorous relationships. It suits readers seeking a thoughtful, informed approach to understanding and managing the complexities of open relationships.

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From the author of the best-selling Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, a next-level guide for people looking to build secure attachment in nonmonogamous relationships.

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As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual nonmonogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom, and support. While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be challenging, leaving them blindsided and overwhelmed.

Beyond the initial transition to nonmonogamy, many struggle with the root issues beneath the symptoms of broken agreements, communication challenges, increased fighting, and persistent jealousy. Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern shares the insights she has gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually nonmonogamous relationships.

Using a grounded theory approach, she explores the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy. Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps, allowing you to not just survive in open relationships, but thrive in them.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781990869143

Publisher: Thornapple Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 25 August 2023

Country: Canada

Imprint: Thornapple Press

Contributors:

  • Foreword by Carrie Jenkins

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 13.0mm

Width: 133.0mm

Height: 203.0mm

Weight: 227g

Pages: 336

About the Author

Jessica Fern is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and an integrative practitioner with decades of experience and training in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic and spiritual therapies. She is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Nonmonogamy and The Polysecure Workbook, and co-author of Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships and Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work. David Cooley is a professional restorative justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer and bilingual cultural broker. With Jessica Fern, he is the co-author of Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships and Transforming the Shame Triangle: From Shame to Love Using Parts Work. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationships Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. Carrie Jenkins is a professor of philosophy at the University of British Columbia and the author of What Love Is (and What it Could Be) and Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning. She holds a PhD in philosophy from Trinity College, Cambridge, and an MFA in creative writing from UBC.

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