Eve Rickert

A practical translation of the principles of attachment theory to non-monogamous relationships. Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm...

‘Can you love more than one person?’ A lot of conversations about nonmonogamy start this way. When we discuss ‘opening’ relationships, contemplate whether we want to be exclusive with our partners, or introduce multiple partners to friends and family, we are asking the people in our lives, and ourselves, to contend with this question. The answer is obvious, and misleading....

A reflection on the many manifestations of broken trust in nonmonogamous relationships, and how to heal from them. Nonmonogamy can assume many shapes, none of which can claim to be a 'safe' model of intimacy. The jet-setting passport paramour who fits the needs of many far-flung lovers into a single carryon has as many opportunities to do right or wrong...