Polysecure

Attachment theory has long been heralded for its insights into how we form connections and maintain emotional bonds. Traditionally, the discussion has focused on cultivating secure attachments within monogamous relationships. However, Polysecure challenges this norm by asking, "What if you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?"

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the polyamorous domain. She presents her nested model of attachment and trauma, expanding our comprehension of how our emotional experiences influence our relationships. Fern's model delves into how individuals can create secure attachments within multiple loving relationships despite the unique challenges they may face.

The book is both a theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It offers six specific strategies aimed at helping individuals and their partners cultivate secure bonds in their polyamorous relationships. These strategies provide readers with the tools to navigate the complexities that come with loving multiple people, ensuring that they can build and maintain healthy, emotionally intimate connections.

Polysecure also addresses common issues such as jealousy, trust, and commitment within non-monogamous relationships. By offering a roadmap for emotionally intimate and securely attached relationships, the book becomes a vital resource for anyone involved in or considering polyamory. It goes beyond mere theory, providing practical advice and techniques that can be applied to real-life situations.

Dr Elisabeth Sheff, author of The Polyamorists Next Door and other works, praises Polysecure for its invaluable insight: "Secure attachment is a product of relationship experiences, rather than relationship structures."

Furthermore, Kathy Labriola, a counsellor and author, highlights the book's significance: "This book can help poly people, as well as clinicians, get to the heart of their struggles and pain. It can help them take concrete steps to become more comfortable with their non-monogamous relationships and trust their partner's love and commitment."

Max Rivers, author of Loving Conflict, adds: "The book gives people a way to understand how they may be recreating old patterns by bringing their own childhood attachment styles into their adult relationships. More importantly, it offers concrete skills for creating healthier, more satisfying, and secure relationship dynamics."

With its pioneering approach and practical guidance, Polysecure is essential reading for anyone involved in non-monogamous relationships and for therapists working with polyamorous clients. It not only redefines the conversation about attachment theory but also empowers readers to forge stronger, healthier, and more secure connections with their partners.