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Don't Alienate the Kids!
Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce
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This book is essential reading for parents, family members, mental health professionals, lawyers, judges, and anyone involved in supporting children through high-conflict separations or divorces. It is particularly valuable for those seeking practical tools to mitigate alienation and promote children's long-term emotional well-being.
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See moreIn this 10th anniversary edition, attorney, mediator, and therapist Eddy explains how to protect children from the harm of alienation and high-conflict divorce, boosting their resilience by teaching them to think flexibly, manage their emotions, and moderate their behaviors.
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In this tenth anniversary edition of Don't Alienate the Kids!, attorney, mediator, and therapist Bill Eddy shows readers how to protect children from the harm of alienation and high-conflict divorce, boosting their resilience by teaching them to think flexibly, manage their emotions, and moderate their behaviours.
We all know breakups can get ugly. But sometimes they can get downright vicious, with badmouthing, brainwashing, and allegations of alienation, child abuse, and domestic violence, all leading to nasty custody battles.
And when they do, it's the children who suffer most. During a high-conflict divorce or separation, kids can develop lifelong habits of all-or-nothing thinking, unregulated emotions, and extreme behaviours. Professionals who want to help may unintentionally make things worse, believing everything a parent says or taking sides.
No one can solve this problem alone. That's because the wall of alienation between parent and child is built by:
- the family's own patterns of conflict
- family court professionals who get emotionally "hooked"
- society's rapidly escalating culture of blame
But there's hope! Readers can help kids learn flexible thinking, emotion regulation, effective behaviours, and healthy relationships.
Everyone involved must work together. This book shows how parents, family members, friends, counsellors, lawyers, parenting coordinators, divorce coaches, and family court judges can become part of the solution, giving children a foundation of resilience that will last a lifetime.
Bill Eddy is cofounder of the High Conflict Institute and the author or coauthor of thirteen books, including Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life, BIFF, and Splitting.
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ISBN: 9781950057948
Publisher: HCI Press
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 04 June 2020
Country: United States
Imprint: HCI Press
Edition: 2nd New edition
Illustration: Illustrations
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Width: 152.0mm
Height: 228.0mm
Weight: 250g
Pages: 336
About the Author
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., is the co-founder and chief innovation officer of the High Conflict Institute in San Diego, California. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist . He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries. He is the author or co-author of sixteen books and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 3.5 million views.
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