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Adult Children of Borderline Parents

A Trauma-Informed Guide to Recover from a Toxic Childhood and Discover a Healthy Sense of Self
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Heal the hidden wounds of growing up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), develop a healthy sense of self, and reclaim your full potential. Did you grow up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), or do you suspect they did?... Read More
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Daniel Lobel offers adults raised by a parent with BPD a trauma-informed guide for understanding their hidden wounds and healing from their toxic childhood. Using therapeutic tool emotional reprocessing, readers will learn how to neutralize the harmful effects of their childhood, develop a healthy sense of self, and reclaim their full potential.

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Heal the hidden wounds of growing up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), develop a healthy sense of self, and reclaim your full potential.

Did you grow up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), or do you suspect they did? Was your parent’s behaviour unpredictable or scary? Did it seem like they were angry one minute and happy the next? Were your basic needs ignored? If so, it wasn’t your fault. Children raised by a parent with BPD are subjected to a number of unhealthy and damaging behaviours—from uncontrolled anger and abuse, to gaslighting, blame-shifting, lying, and more. As a result of these experiences, you may have developed feelings of guilt, insecurity, and depression that have lingered throughout your adult life.

This compassionate guide, Adult Children of Borderline Parents, offers a trauma-informed approach to help you recover from your toxic childhood and discover the person you were truly meant to be. You’ll learn how to identify emotional and developmental wounds, and discover why interactions with your parents were so harmful to your sense of self. Then, you’ll learn to create strong interpersonal boundaries and overcome feelings of guilt, anger, and low self-worth. Finally, through the act of emotional reprocessing, you’ll reclaim those aspects of yourself that were lost or distorted by your trauma, so you can restart healthy growth processes and become the person you were meant to be.

If you’re carrying the hidden wounds of a toxic childhood, you’re not alone—and you can heal. With this practical and powerful guide, you can finally understand what happened, build a healthy sense of self, and reach your full potential.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781648484537

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 29 May 2025

Country: United States

Imprint: New Harbinger Publications

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 16.0mm

Width: 150.0mm

Height: 228.0mm

Weight: 260g

Pages: 192

About the Author

Daniel S. Lobel, PhD, practices clinical psychology in Katonah, NY. He is author of two books: When Your Daughter Has BPD and When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder, and numerous blogs on Psychology Today. He has taught at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, State University of New York, Hofstra School of Law, and lectures with the National Alliance of the Mentally Ill (NAMI).Randi Kreger is coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells, and author or coauthor of three other books: The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook, The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, and Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents. Kreger is owner and moderator of the Moving Forward family support group, which can be accessed at her website: www.stopwalkingoneggshells.com. She has given presentations throughout the United States and in Japan. She also has a one-on-one coaching practice which can be accessed through her website.

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