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Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths?and How We Can Stop

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Bestselling author and therapist Bill Eddy analyses how dangerous, high-conflict personalities—such as those with narcissistic or sociopathic traits—have ascended to power in governments worldwide. He explores how these politicians exploit social divisions and manufacture crises to maintain control, threatening democracy itself. Using historical and contemporary examples including Hitler, Stalin, and Trump, Eddy offers readers a guide to identifying these leaders and practical strategies to stop their rise.
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Bestselling author, therapist, lawyer, and mediator Bill Eddy describes how dangerous, high-conflict personalities have gained power in governments worldwide—and what citizens can do to keep these people out of office.

The bestselling author and therapist describes how electing high-conflict personalities—from Hitler and Mao to Putin and Trump—threatens democracy.

Democracy is under siege. The reason isn't politics but personalities—too many countries have come under the sway of high-conflict people (HCPs) who have become politicians. Most of these high-conflict politicians have traits of narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial (i.e., sociopathic) personality disorder, or both. This is the first and only guide for identifying and thwarting them.

HCPs don't avoid conflict; they thrive on it, widening social divisions and exacerbating international tensions. Eddy, the world's leading authority on high-conflict personalities, explains why they're so seductive and describes the telltale traits that define HCPs—he even includes a helpful list of forty typical HCP behaviours.

Drawing on historical examples from Hitler, Stalin, Mao, and Nixon to Trump, Maduro, and Putin, Eddy shows how HCPs invent enemies and manufacture phony crises so they can portray themselves as the sole heroic figure who can deal with them, despite their inability to actually solve problems. He describes the best ways to expose HCPs as the charlatans they are, reply to their empty and misleading promises, and find genuine leaders to support. Eddy brings his deep psychotherapeutic experience to bear on a previously unidentified phenomenon that presents a real threat to the world.

Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths—and How We Can Stop details a prescriptive, strategic action formula for preventing the predictable destructive outcomes of authoritarian leaders. This book will alarm you, inform you, and shake up your perspective—propelling you to take action—but only reasonable and effective action!

—Donald T. Saposnek, PhD, author of Mediating Child Custody Disputes

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781523085279

Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 21 May 2019

Country: United States

Imprint: Berrett-Koehler Publishers

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 229.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 192

About the Author

Bill Eddy is the cofounder and training director of the High Conflict Institute and is a senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center. He is also a licensed clinical social worker with twelve years of experience and currently serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law. He is the author or coauthor of fourteen books and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 2 million views.

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