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Too Much

A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Co-dependency
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Are you the person everyone comes to when they're in a jam? Do you regularly accommodate others' needs and preferences? Does it feel like chaos will ensue if you don't handle the travel plans, divvy up the check at group dinners, sort out your friend's latest... Read More
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An empowering new take on codependent behaviour, revealing the underlying reasons we struggle with doing it allโ€•and the path to recovery and freedom.

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Are you the person everyone comes to when they're in a jam?

Do you regularly accommodate others' needs and preferences?

Does it feel like chaos will ensue if you don't handle the travel plans, divvy up the check at group dinners, sort out your friend's latest crisis, and so on?

If these questions resonate, the odds are good that you are one of the overgiving, overextending individuals struggling with what psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole has termed high-functioning codependency (HFC).

When you hear the word codependent, you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Terri certainly did. But after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviours that fell outside of the classic model.

The ironic truth with HFC is that the more capable you are the more codependency doesn't look like codependency.

In Too Much, you'll discover how to identify your HFC blueprint (or why you relate to others the way you do), the source of the attraction between codependents and narcissists, and how to cultivate emotional resiliency, practice real self-care, and much more.

Each chapter includes tips, self-assessments, and exercises to help you transform how you see yourself and the world, avoid relapses, and stay centred in your own experience so that you can relate to others in a healthier way.

"How you feel, what you think, what you want matters. In fact, those things need to matter to you the most," writes Terri. "By choosing the path of healing and recovery, you are coming home to yourself." Here is a book for making the shift "from too much to just right," so you can live a life that's full of authenticity, freedom, and joy.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781399822145

Publisher: John Murray Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 24 October 2024

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Sheldon Press

Illustration: N/A

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 24.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 232.0mm

Weight: 342g

Pages: 272

About the Author

Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss. For over 25 years, she has worked with a diverse group of clients from stay-at-home mums to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts actionable and accessible. She inspires over 600,000 people weekly through her public platforms and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com.

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