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The School of Life Guide to Modern Manners

how to navigate the dilemmas of social life
By The School of Life
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Modern life is full of minor but acute dilemmas: we get stuck at a gathering with someone unusually boring and wonder how to move on without causing offence; in the course of introducing one friend to another, we realise that we have forgotten one of the... Read More
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A guide to confronting modern social situations with confidence and grace.

This essential guide explores how etiquette is defined by consideration and respect, while putting good manners back at the centre of our priorities.

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Modern life is full of minor but acute dilemmas: we get stuck at a gathering with someone unusually boring and wonder how to move on without causing offence; in the course of introducing one friend to another, we realise that we have forgotten one of the party's names; we run into an ex while on an early date with a new partner; we spill red wine across a host's sofa...

Such dilemmas mightβ€”at one levelβ€”seem desperately insignificant. But they actually belong to some of the largest and most serious themes in social existence: how can you pursue your own agenda for happiness while at the same time honouring the sensitivities and wishes of others; how can you convey goodwill with sincerity; how can you be kind without being supine or sentimental?

It is often confusing to know how to act around others and navigate social situations. The School of Life Guide to Modern Manners features twenty case-studies on common social dilemmas and our possible responses to them, contributing to a new and original philosophy of graceful conduct.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781916753044

Publisher: The School of Life Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 07 November 2024

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: The School of Life Press

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 129.0mm

Height: 198.0mm

Weight: 600g

Pages: 144

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The School of Life is here to help you learn, heal and grow. We are devoted to bringing you calm, self-understanding, better relationships, deeper friendships, greater effectiveness at work and more fulfilment in your leisure time.

We do this via our books, our app, our films, our therapeutic services and our corporate offering.

The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of The School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton.

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