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Mediating High Conflict Disputes

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Mediating High Conflict Disputes presents a transformative approach to mediation specifically designed for challenging, high conflict cases. Drawing on over a decade of experience, Bill Eddy and Michael Lomax introduce the innovative New Ways for Mediation method, rich with practical tips and a structured process to better manage clients with high conflict personalities. The book is divided into three parts: an exploration of high conflict behaviour and pitfalls to avoid; a comprehensive guide to the New Ways for Mediation methodology with its unique paradigm shifts; and illustrative case studies across family, workplace, and governmental disputes.
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This book is ideal for mediators, lawyers, judges, and mental health professionals seeking specialised strategies for handling high conflict disputes effectively. It suits those involved in family, workplace, or public agency mediation looking to deepen their understanding and improve outcomes in difficult cases.

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High conflict mediation requires a paradigm shift from traditional mediation—high conflict experts Bill Eddy and Michael Lomax show you how.

Over the past ten years, the authors have been developing and practising tips for managing high conflict clients in mediation, which is now a fully developed method called New Ways for Mediation. Mediating High Conflict Disputes provides all the little tips which any mediator can use, as well as the step-by-step structure of the New Ways for Mediation method for those who want to have better control of the process in high conflict cases—or any cases.

Bill Eddy is primarily a family mediator in San Diego, California, with a worldwide reputation for training mediators, lawyers, judges, and counsellors in methods for working with clients with "high conflict" personality disorders or traits. He is the recipient of the Academy of Professional Mediators Family Mediation Lifetime Achievement Award 2021.

Michael Lomax is a mediator dealing with family, workplace, military, and government agency disputes in British Columbia, Canada. Both have provided training in this method for High Conflict Institute over the past ten years.

This book is divided into three parts:

Part 1 provides a thorough explanation of the thinking and behaviour of parties with high conflict personalities, with an emphasis on what does not work and should be avoided.

Part 2 provides a detailed description of the New Ways for Mediation method, including several paradigm shifts in each step of the process for greater success. Its similarities and differences with interest-based negotiations and transformative mediation methods are explained.

Part 3 includes numerous examples describing cases with special issues in several settings, including family, workplace, and disputes involving government agencies.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781950057214

Publisher: HCI Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 29 July 2021

Country: United States

Imprint: HCI Press

Illustration: Illustrations

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 228.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 232

About the Author

Bill Eddy is the co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and has become an expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities. He was the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center for 15 years, a Certified Family Law Specialist lawyer representing clients in family court for 15 years, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker therapist with twelve years' experience. Bill is the recipient of the 2021 Lifetime Achievement Award from the Academy of Professional Family Mediators.

p>He serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law in California and is a Conjoint Associate Professor with the University of Newcastle Law School in Australia. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 30 U.S. states and 10 countries and is the author or co-author of twenty books and has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with several million views. www.HighConflictInstitute.com

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