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I Need You... Now Go Away!

Reclaiming Your Life When You or Someone You Love Has a Personality Disorder
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Many people find themselves in the same painful relationship patterns—choosing the wrong partners, replaying the same arguments, or feeling misunderstood again and again. These struggles are not about bad luck or flaws, but about inherited distorted intimacy patterns that have become stuck over time. Psychiatry sometimes... Read More
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Are you befuddled by the push-pull tactics of your loved one that sabotages true intimacy? I Need You... Now Go Away! teaches you how to identify and redirect these destructive patterns of behavior, so you can transform your relationship with someone who has a personality disorder.

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Many people find themselves in the same painful relationship patterns—choosing the wrong partners, replaying the same arguments, or feeling misunderstood again and again. These struggles are not about bad luck or flaws, but about inherited distorted intimacy patterns that have become stuck over time.

Psychiatry sometimes calls these "personality disorders," a term that can sound frightening or insulting. In reality, it simply points to long-standing ways of relating that can sabotage the very relationships we long for. And this is true no matter which "side" of the problem you believe you're on: whether you're disrupting closeness, or struggling with someone else's disruptions, change is possible.

With the right therapeutic guidance, people can recognize their patterns, learn healthier ways of connecting, and finally experience the lasting intimacy they long for. If you've noticed the same struggles repeating, know this: change is not only possible—it's within reach.

I Need You... Now Go Away! by Laura Dabney offers insight and support for those seeking to break free from these patterns and achieve the fulfilling relationships they desire.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781399835220

Publisher: John Murray Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 11 June 2026

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Sheldon Press

Illustration: N/A

Audience: General / adult, Tertiary education, Professional and scholarly

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 24.0mm

Width: 132.0mm

Height: 214.0mm

Weight: 260g

Pages: 240

About the Author

Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, Virginia, for almost twenty-five years. In her psychiatry residency training, she learned to treat people with personality disorders. But it was not until she opened her practice in 2000 and joined a supervision group with other dynamic and analytic therapists that she really started to understand personality disorders in depth and adapt her treatment accordingly.

Dr. Dabney has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia, including Richmond. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites, and in print media including Martha Stewart Weddings, Bustle HuffPost, Travel and Leisure, US News and World Report, and more. She consults for several major institutions, including the Virginia Veterans Administration Medical Center. In addition to receiving her MD, she is board certified in psychiatry and certified in life coaching. She was educated at Eastern Virginia Medical School in Norfolk, Virginia, and still resides in that area with her husband of thirty-three years and near her two grown sons and their families.

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