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How to Find Love

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How to Find Love by The School of Life delves into the complexities and challenges of finding meaningful romantic connections. It explores the psychological and emotional hurdles involved in love, offering insights into self-awareness and personal growth. The book provides guidance on how to better understand oneself and others, aiming to foster deeper, more genuine relationships.
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If you are intrigued by the complex dynamics of love and relationships, this insightful guide provides a thoughtful exploration of forming meaningful connections. Its perspective may appeal to those seeking to understand the emotional and psychological underpinnings of finding and maintaining love, making it a relevant read for anyone looking to enrich their personal relationships.

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Focus on how to improve your instincts and overcome all obstacles to finding that special someone.

A guide to navigating the emotional minefield of love and relationships.

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Choosing a partner is one of the most consequential and tricky decisions we will ever make, and the cost of repeated failure is immense. How to Find Love explains why we have the 'types' we do, and how our early experiences give us scripts of how and whom we love.

It sheds light on harmful repetitive patterns and the extent to which we are not always simply choosing people who can make us happy. We learn the most common techniques we use to sabotage our chances of fulfilment and why, despite their costs, we unwittingly engage in them.

This book provides a crucial set of ideas to help us make safer, more imaginative, and more effective choices in love.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780995573697

Publisher: The School of Life Press

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 27 July 2017

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: The School of Life Press

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 110.0mm

Height: 181.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 80

About the Author

The School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence. It addresses issues such as how to find fulfilling work, how to master the art of relationships, how to understand one's past, how to achieve calm, and how better to understand and - where necessary - change the world. These ideas are delivered through a range of channels: from videos, books, and products - to classes, events, and one-to-one therapy sessions.

The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Their books share a coherent, curated message that speaks with one voice: calm, reassuring, and sane.

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