The Curse of Lovely

Many people's lives, relationships, careers, and wellbeing are blighted by the belief that to be liked, loved, and accepted they must limit themselves to behaviours they believe are approved of by others. This might mean some or all of the following: always being polite, nice, helpful, charming, fun, making people feel good about themselves, not letting people down, never saying 'no', avoiding conflict, and putting others' needs before their own.

In her 15 years of clinical experience as a psychologist, Jacqui Marson has coined the phrase the curse of lovely to describe this growing trend. Many people would like to be known as lovely, but for a growing number of people, it can feel like a curse. They feel trapped, suffocated, and oppressed by the weight of others' expectations and feel that change is not an option.

This highly practical and motivational book will show readers how to break the cycle or curse of lovely to live a more complete, fulfilling life. Contents include: When 'lovely' turns into a curse; the lovely child - how it all begins; the lovely friend; the lovely parent; the lovely colleague; the lovely partner; from curse to gift - how we can still be lovable and get our needs met; but what do I want - how to tune in to what your body is telling you; re-evaluating anger; saying 'no' and surviving; how to instigate scary conversations; and how to replace the personal rules that put you at the bottom of the pile.