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Essential Ideas 1: Love by The School of Life has distilled its most essential ideas on love to produce a bitesize manual that is both useful and entertaining. We learn—among other things—how to pick partners more reliably, how to avoid conflict, and how to know whether... Read More
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From the new pocket book series, featuring key ideas from The School of Life exploring relationships.

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Essential Ideas 1: Love by The School of Life has distilled its most essential ideas on love to produce a bitesize manual that is both useful and entertaining.

We learn—among other things—how to pick partners more reliably, how to avoid conflict, and how to know whether a relationship is really for us. By exploring key themes within the topic of relationships, such as Anxious Attachment, Attachment Theory, Long-term Love, Romantic Disappointment, Secrets in Love, and Crushes, this book shows us how a satisfied love life is not a chance event but something that we can all plot for and achieve.

Love is a skill, not an emotion; this is a guide to how we might master it.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781916753037

Publisher: The School of Life Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 07 November 2024

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: The School of Life Press

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 111.0mm

Height: 157.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 96

About the Author

The School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence. It addresses issues such as how to find fulfilling work, how to master the art of relationships, how to understand one's past, how to achieve calm, and how better to understand and - where necessary - change the world. These ideas are delivered through a range of channels: from videos, books, and products - to classes, events, and one-to-one therapy sessions. The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Their books share a coherent, curated message that speaks with one voice: calm, reassuring, and sane.

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