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The Ingredients of Emotional Maturity
How to become more self-aware and resilient
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We often assume that maturity arrives automatically with age. Yet many of us enter adulthood without ever learning what emotional maturity actually involves — or how to develop it. The Ingredients of Emotional Maturity explores the core psychological qualities that define emotional adulthood: the ability to...
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A clear, humane guide to emotional adulthood, explaining what emotional maturity really is and why many capable adults struggle to achieve it. Grounded in modern psychology and written with warmth and wit, it explores love, conflict, vulnerability, childhood patterns and emotional life at work and in relationships.
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We often assume that maturity arrives automatically with age. Yet many of us enter adulthood without ever learning what emotional maturity actually involves — or how to develop it.
The Ingredients of Emotional Maturity explores the core psychological qualities that define emotional adulthood: the ability to explain rather than merely react, to forgive without abandoning ourselves, to face conflict without catastrophising, and to live with the limits of who we are without falling into despair.
Written with clarity and compassion, this book examines emotional responsibility, vulnerability, self-compassion and the art of staying calm under pressure. It shows why emotional immaturity can persist long into adult life — and how, with patience and insight, we can move beyond reactive habits to become more resilient, generous and wise.
Thoughtful, practical and deeply humane, The Ingredients of Emotional Maturity is for anyone who wants to become a better friend, partner, colleague or parent — not through perfection, but through a kinder, more realistic understanding of what it truly means to grow up.
Book Details
INFORMATION
ISBN: 9781916753518
Publisher: The School of Life Press
Format: Hardback
Date Published: 06 August 2026
Country: United Kingdom
Imprint: The School of Life Press
Illustration: 7 illustrations
Audience: General / adult
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Width: 125.0mm
Height: 180.0mm
Weight: 0g
Pages: 176
About the Author
The School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence. It addresses issues such as how to find fulfilling work, how to master the art of relationships, how to understand one's past, how to achieve calm, and how better to understand and - where necessary - change the world. These ideas are delivered through a range of channels: from videos, books, and products - to classes, events, and one-to-one therapy sessions.The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Their books share a coherent, curated message that speaks with one voice: calm, reassuring, and sane.
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