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On Self-hatred

learning to like oneself
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On Self-hatred by The School of Life delves into the psychology behind feelings of self-loathing and explores their origins and effects. It provides insights into how these negative feelings develop over time and offers practical guidance on how to overcome them. Through thoughtful analysis, the book encourages positive self-reflection and self-acceptance, aiming to guide readers towards a more compassionate understanding of themselves.
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This book may appeal to you if you're seeking a compassionate and insightful guide to understanding and overcoming feelings of self-criticism and negativity. It explores the roots of self-hatred and offers practical advice on nurturing self-compassion and improving your relationship with yourself. Perfect for those interested in personal growth and emotional well-being.

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A guide to emotional healing and living a more self-accepting life.

A guide to emotional healing and living a more self-accepting life by learning to love oneself.

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Behind many of our problems lies an often ignored factor: we don't like ourselves very much. We are sufferers of self-hatred. We tell ourselves the meanest things. It's because of self-hatred that we tend to neglect our potential at work and get entangled in unfulfilling relationships, that we lack confidence in our social lives and suffer from anxiety and despair.

On Self-hatred is a book that, with immense compassion and fellow feeling, investigates the phenomenon of self-hatred while giving pragmatic advice on how to overcome it. It asks where the feeling comes from, what it makes us do, and how we might become kinder and more compassionate towards ourselves.

We have probably spent far too much of our lives disliking ourselves and attacking everything we say, do or feel, while not even realising what we're up to. It's time to overcome our masochism and move towards a more self-forgiving and accepting stance.

The School of Life: On Self-hatred is a guide to the more compassionate and gentle relationship we should have had with ourselves from the start, and can all achieve now.

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On Self-Hatred by The School of Life is praised as a profoundly insightful and helpful guide that addresses the pervasive issue of self-directed negativity. Readers appreciate its thoughtful exploration of common emotional experiences and the gentle acceptance of melancholy. The book is lauded for its ability to aid in self-acceptance and provide hope and practical tools for those struggling with self-image issues, earning strong recommendations from readers and experts alike.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781912891870

Publisher: The School of Life Press

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 04 August 2022

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: The School of Life Press

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 110.0mm

Height: 181.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 160

About the Author

The School of Life is a global organisation helping people lead more fulfilled lives. Through our range of books, gifts and stationery, we aim to prompt more thoughtful natures and help everyone to find fulfilment. The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton.

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