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Love and War in Intimate Relationships
Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy
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What happens between partners that makes love turn to war? How can couples therapists help deescalate the battles? Two leading therapists apply the latest neuroscience research on emotional arousal to help couples regulate each other's emotions, maintain secure attachment, and foster positive, enduring relationships.
The neurobiologically-grounded and sensitive approach set forth by Solomon and Tatkin in Love and War in Intimate Relationships is sure to transform the way clinicians understand and treat couples in therapy.
Series: Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology
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Love and War in Intimate Relationships is highly praised for its innovative approach to couple therapy, integrating psychobiological insights with practical therapeutic techniques. Reviewers commend its ability to illuminate complex relationship dynamics and offer accessible interventions. Many recommend it as an essential resource for clinicians, highlighting its transformative impact and practicality in applying neuroscience and attachment theory to therapy.
Book Details
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ISBN: 9780393705751
Publisher: WW Norton & Co
Format: Hardback
Date Published: 15 April 2011
Country: United States
Imprint: WW Norton & Co
Audience: Professional and scholarly
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 28.0mm
Width: 165.0mm
Height: 244.0mm
Weight: 580g
Pages: 288
About the Author
Marion Solomon, PhD, is a lecturer at the David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Psychiatry at UCLA. She is co-editor with Dan Siegel of several books in the IPNB Series, including Healing Trauma and How People Change. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, developer of a Psychobiological Approach To Couple Therapy® (PACT), maintains a private practice in Calabasas, California, and runs therapist training programs in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Seattle, and Austin. As assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine, Dr. Tatkin teaches and supervises family medicine residents, and serves as adjunct faculty for several colleges and universities.
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