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The Defining Decade (Revised)

Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
By Meg Jay
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Revised and reissued for a new generation, The Defining Decade has changed the way millions of twentysomethings think about their twenties β€” and themselves. Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging... Read More
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Revised and reissued for a new generation, The Defining Decade has changed the way millions of twentysomethings think about their twenties -- and themselves.

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Revised and reissued for a new generation, The Defining Decade has changed the way millions of twentysomethings think about their twenties β€” and themselves.

Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. In The Defining Decade, Meg Jay argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialised the most transformative time of our lives.

Drawing from more than two decades of work with thousands of clients and students, Jay weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that shows us how work, relationships, personality, identity and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood β€” if we use the time well.

New in this updated edition:

  • Up-to-date research on work, love, social media, the brain, friendship and fertility
  • 29 conversations to have with your partner
  • A social experiment in which "digital natives" go without their devices
  • A Reader's Guide for book clubs, classrooms or further self-reflection

The Defining Decade shows us why, rather than a developmental downtime, our twenties are a developmental sweetspot. They are a time when the things we do β€” and the things we don't do β€” will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781538754238

Publisher: Little, Brown & Company

Format: Paperback / softback

Country: United States

Imprint: Twelve

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 140.0mm

Height: 210.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 336

About the Author

Meg Jay, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and associate professor of human development at University of Virginia. She earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from University of California, Berkeley. Her TED talk "Why 30 Is Not the New 20" is among the most watched of all time.

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