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Connectability

Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, and Feel (At Last) Like You Belong
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Heal trauma-driven disconnection and feel—at last!—like you belong, with guidance from the creator of the Crappy Childhood Fairy healing method and YouTube channel. Research-backed lessons show anyone suffering from CPTSD and childhood trauma how to form more meaningful, caring relationships. Does it seem like no matter... Read More
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Heal trauma-driven disconnection and feel—at last!—like you belong, with guidance from the creator of the Crappy Childhood Fairy healing method and YouTube channel.

Research-backed lessons show anyone suffering from CPTSD and childhood trauma how to form more meaningful, caring relationships.

Does it seem like no matter how hard you try to fit in, you don't feel understood, or like you belong? Like it's so easy for other people to get together and do ordinary things—but for you, it feels so awkward and stressful that you avoid social situations. Or you go through the motions of a connected life, but you never really feel close to anyone, even though you don't know why.

You're not alone. An almost universal adult symptom of trauma from childhood is a feeling of disconnection, and it can lead to a lifetime of loneliness, broken relationships, and the feeling that life is passing you by. But Anna Runkle (aka the Crappy Childhood Fairy) is here to help! Step-by-step, she teaches you practical strategies for healing trauma-driven isolation and developing the social skills needed to break the unconscious habits that push others away—what she calls "covert avoidance."

Through stories of her own, prompts for self-reflection, and daily connection plans, Anna guides you to:

  • Overcome triggers that make you want to isolate
  • Identify the role dysregulation plays in damaging connection
  • Learn to trust your instincts, recognize red flags, and set boundaries
  • Master the art of small talk, active listening, and "reading the room"
  • Gradually build the warm and trusting relationships that everyone needs for a happy life

This book is for anyone who has struggled to form satisfying connections with others, offering a practical, impactful path to the rich life you truly want and deserve.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781401999209

Publisher: Hay House Inc

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 07 October 2025

Country: United States

Imprint: Hay House Inc

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 19.0mm

Width: 153.0mm

Height: 234.0mm

Weight: 284g

About the Author

Anna Runkle leads a movement to help men and women worldwide to heal trauma symptoms and change their lives-whether or not they have access to professional help. More than a million men and women worldwide subscribe to her YouTube channel, blog, courses and coaching programs, where she teaches the principles and techniques she has used to recover from her own Childhood PTSD symptoms. Her approach includes simple, self-directed exercises to calm emotional triggers and neurological dysregulation and begin changing the self-defeating behaviors that are common for people who have lived much of their lives dysregulated. She lives with her husband and two sons in the San Francisco Bay Area. www.crappychildhoodfairy.com

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