Ace

In Ace, journalist Angela Chen delves deeply into the asexual experience, exploring what it truly means to navigate life without sexual attraction in a society that places immense importance on sexual desire. This compelling book combines elements of memoir, cultural criticism, and investigative reporting to unravel the misconceptions and stereotypes that often surround asexuality. Chen's journey is illuminating not just for those who identify as asexual, but for anyone interested in the diverse spectra of human desire and identity.

Through her own path to understanding her asexuality, Chen introduces readers to a wide array of voices from the asexual community. The stories she shares are both vulnerable and honest, shedding light on the complexities of asexuality from various perspectives. These include a woman who undergoes blood tests believing her lack of sexual desire indicates a medical issue, and a man raised in a devout religious environment who discovers post-marriage that his sexual experiences never aligned with societal expectations.

The book also highlights the experiences of disabled aces, aces of colour, gender-nonconforming aces, and asexual individuals who are either seeking or eschewing romantic relationships. These personal narratives provide a rich tapestry of asexual lives, celebrating the diversity within the asexual community and challenging the notion that a lack of sexual attraction is abnormal.

Ace goes beyond personal stories to offer a rigorous cultural analysis, questioning how societal norms about sex and relationships limit our understanding of intimacy and pleasure. Chen’s insightful critique examines gender roles, romance, consent, and societal pressures, showing that many issues faced by asexual individuals are also experienced by those outside the asexual community.

This accessible and engaging examination encourages all readers to rethink preconceived notions about pleasure, intimacy, and identity. It is a powerful call to broaden our understanding and acceptance of diverse sexual orientations, making Ace a critical read for anyone interested in the intersection of sexuality and societal expectations.

Recognised as one of NPR's Best Books of 2020, Electric Literature's Favourite Books of 2020, and one of them.'s Queer Books We Loved in 2020, Ace is a pioneering work that brings a much-needed perspective to conversations about desire and identity.