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Why We Fight
A Transformative Road Map to Healing Conflict in Any Relationship
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In Why We Fight, relationship coach and couples' therapist, Kim Polinder reveals the real reasons those familiar arguments keep returning, no matter how small the trigger seems. Polinder shows that most conflicts aren't really about the dishes or chores, they're about core wounds, attachment styles and...
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Arguments are inevitable, but they don't have to be destructive. Learn to understand triggers, navigate emotions and turn recurring fights into moments of connection.
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In Why We Fight, relationship coach and couples' therapist, Kim Polinder reveals the real reasons those familiar arguments keep returning, no matter how small the trigger seems. Polinder shows that most conflicts aren't really about the dishes or chores, they're about core wounds, attachment styles and negative self-beliefs that formed long before you entered any relationship.
Inspired by her years as a tech engineer, Polinder provides a systematic, root-cause approach, turning overwhelming feelings into a clear, step-by-step process to navigate arguments better. Through case studies, practical exercises and guided questions, you'll learn to troubleshoot arguments in real time, regulate your emotions, communicate effectively and reframe old patterns. Along the way, you'll discover not only how to improve your relationship, but also a deeper understanding of yourself and why you hurt the way you do.
If you're sick of feeling out of control as the same old fights keep bubbling up, Why We Fight provides a path to understanding the real reasons we argue and how to finally change them, before it's too late.
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ISBN: 9781805466789
Publisher: Atlantic Books
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 23 July 2026
Country: United Kingdom
Imprint: Atlantic Books
Audience: General / adult
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Width: 156.0mm
Height: 234.0mm
Weight: 0g
Pages: 304
About the Author
Kim Polinder is a relationship coach and therapist with more than 600,000 followers across all social media platforms and millions of views of her viral relationship advice videos. Formerly a Fortune 500 tech engineer, she left it behind to follow her passion for psychology and emotional healing. Armed with master's degrees in Clinical Mental Health and Spiritual Psychology, Kim blends techniques from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and inner child work. Adopted from Korea and growing up in a white Christian family in small-town America led her on a journey of self-acceptance that fuels her empathy for her clients. Kim's mission is clear: to help others heal and create the relationships they desire. She lives in San Diego, California.
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