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The Anxious-Avoidant Trap

How to Overcome the Push and Pull of Different Attachment Styles and Build Lasting Connection with Your Partner
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A powerful guide to help you and your partner build true and lasting connection. Do you and your partner have different needs when it comes to your relationship? Perhaps you desire more intimacy and reassurance, while they value independence and tend to keep you at arm's... Read More
Format: Paperback / softback
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When one partner anxiously seeks reassurance and intimacy in a romantic relationship and the other avoids intimacy to maintain autonomy and space, it can create a toxic push-pull dynamic. This book offers powerful strategies to help couples break free from this destructive dynamic and build trust, security, and deeper connection.

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A powerful guide to help you and your partner build true and lasting connection.

Do you and your partner have different needs when it comes to your relationship? Perhaps you desire more intimacy and reassurance, while they value independence and tend to keep you at arm's length. Or maybe you feel “trapped,” while they act “clingy?” If this sounds familiar, you and your partner may have differing ways of relating to one another, often shaped by past experiences and needs.

Written by a relationship specialist, this book offers practical strategies to help you break free from toxic push-pull dynamics. It focuses on building healthy communication, security, and a deeper connection with your partner. Through clear insights and actionable steps, this guide will help you understand your relationship patterns and foster a healthier, and more fulfilling connection.

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap will show you and your partner how to gain a better understanding of each other, so you can improve communication, avoid emotional reactions, and bring joy back into your relationship.

With this compassionate guide, you will:

  • Discover how attachment styles are formed in childhood
  • Learn about the three “core wounds” of attachment trauma
  • Recognize signs of anxious or avoidant attachment in adulthood
  • Develop skills to respond to your partner while reducing emotional reactions
 

Fostering a deeper connection with your partner encourages recognizing your own unique attachment style and specific needs—as well as your partner’s. The tools in this self-help guide will help you both heal your invisible wounds—so you can build a bond together that truly stands the test of time.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781648485459

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 25 September 2025

Country: United States

Imprint: New Harbinger Publications

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 14.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 226.0mm

Weight: 266g

Pages: 200

About the Author

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD, is a relationship specialist who coaches highly motivated individuals in improving their emotional well-being and building healthier, more fulfilling relationships. With a deep understanding of the impact of past experiences on current behavior, she offers meaningful programs designed to support clients in overcoming toxic relationship challenges, breaking free from negative patterns, and fostering personal growth. Through a combination of actionable tools and a compassionate approach, she empowers clients to develop greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and stronger connections with themselves and others.

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