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Loving My Lying, Dying, Cheating Husband

A memoir of a whirlwind romance gone wrong
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Kerstin is childless by choice and married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turns her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale. Soon after their runaway wedding, Gianni is diagnosed with cancer and Kerstin becomes his dedicated carer. But when she discovers that he has... Read More
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A wise and witty memoir about having to care for the very person who has hurt you the most. Perfect for fans of Kathy Lette and Elizabeth Gilbert.

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Kerstin is childless by choice and married to her job when Gianni, a charming Italian, turns her life into a champagne-coloured fairy tale.

Soon after their runaway wedding, Gianni is diagnosed with cancer and Kerstin becomes his dedicated carer. But when she discovers that he has been cheating on her all through their relationship, she is faced with a difficult choice: walk away, or continue to care for the man who betrayed her.

She turns first to wine and then to therapy, eventually ending up in a Buddhist monastery. There she realises that finding a new way of loving her lying, dying husband might offer a chance to grow from her pain rather than be crushed by it - and to avoid liver damage.

Written with wisdom, humour and unfailing kindness, this is a life-affirming tale of one woman's search for better ways to love, grieve and forgive.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781923022225

Publisher: Affirm Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 27 February 2024

Country: Australia

Imprint: Affirm Press

DIMENSIONS

Width: 153.0mm

Height: 234.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 304

About the Author

Kerstin grew up in Germany and travelled the world before settling in Australia, where she now calls tropical Far North Queensland home. She holds a PhD in Italian literature and spent most of her working life as an academic, teaching European languages and Intercultural Communication, in Australia, Italy, the Maldives and on a floating university campus aboard a cruise ship. She is widely published as an academic, including book chapters and a monograph on Italo Calvino. Her travel features have appeared in The Australian, The Sydney Morning Herald and The New York Times.

Discovering the healing power of writing while going through grief was life-changing, and she now writes a popular monthly newsletter and holds writing and yoga retreats in Bali and Vietnam through a small business she built from scratch, www.writeyourjourney.com. You can also find her at www.kerstinpilz.com, on Instagram at www.instagram.com/kerstinpilz.author/, or watch her TEDx talk on 'The Healing Power of Writing' at www.ted.com.

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