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How to Have That Difficult Conversation

Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication
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How to Have That Difficult Conversation offers practical advice to improve your relationships through healthy confrontation. Drawing on principles from the bestselling Boundaries, authors Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend guide you on setting clear boundaries, preparing for challenging talks, and handling difficult behaviours constructively. The book includes real-life examples of conversations with spouses, children, colleagues, and others to help you foster love, respect, and understanding.
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Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend---the authors of the award-winning and bestselling Boundaries---have written the handbook for having that difficult conversation you've been avoiding. Includes a discussion guide.

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Full of practical tips and how-tos, this book will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.

Successful people confront well. They know that setting healthy boundaries improves relationships and can solve important problems. They have discovered that uncomfortable situations can be avoided or resolved through direct conversation. But most of us don't know how to have difficult conversations, and we see confrontation as scary or adversarial.

Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their award-winning and bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:

  • Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships
  • Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation
  • Provide tips on preparing for the conversation
  • Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behaviour, and deal with counterattack
  • Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!

This book is a practical handbook on positive confrontation that will help you finally have that difficult conversation you've been avoiding. Includes a discussion guide.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780310342564

Publisher: Zondervan

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 10 September 2015

Country: United States

Imprint: Zondervan

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 21.0mm

Width: 135.0mm

Height: 202.0mm

Weight: 253g

Pages: 320

About the Author

Dr. Henry Cloud is a popular speaker, and co-host, with Dr. John Townsend, of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! Radio program, and cofounder of Cloud-Townsend Clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources. His bestselling books include the Gold Medallion Award-winning Boundaries books and Making Small Groups Work. Dr. Cloud and his wife and two daughters live in Southern California. Dr. John Townsend is a leadership consultant, psychologist, and New York times bestselling author. He has written twenty-seven books, selling 8 million copies, including the 3 million-selling Boundaries series. John is founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and conducts the Townsend Leadership Program. He travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking, and working with leadership families. He and his wife, Barbi, live in Newport Beach, California. They have two sons. One of Dr. Townsend's favorite hobbies is playing in a band that performs in Southern California lounges and venues.

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