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How to Be

A Monk and a Journalist Reflect on Living & Dying, Purpose & Prayer, Forgiveness & Friendship
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How to Be is a dialogue between two spiritual seekers: Brother Paul, a Trappist monk grounded in ancient monastic prayer and silence, and Judith Valente, a married professional woman seeking to bring prayer and contemplation into a busy secular life. The book explores profound questions about faith, mortality, mystery, prayer, and work through their contrasting yet complementary perspectives. It invites readers to embrace life itself as the ultimate purpose, offering insight and inspiration particularly for those interested in contemplative spiritual paths.
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This book is ideal for readers interested in spirituality, meditation, and contemplation, particularly those exploring Christian monastic traditions or seeking spiritual growth in everyday life.

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This book is a dialogue between two spiritual seekers—one a Trappist monk and the other a married professional woman. It is two people stuttering to articulate life's universal questions from diverse contexts and perspectives. Brother Paul writes as one steeped in silence and the daily rhythms of the ancient prayer practices of monasticism. Judith Valente writes as a professional woman attempting to bring a sense of prayer and contemplation to a scattered life in the secular world.

Valente uses the story of Brother Paul's interview for a PBS documentary as a jumping-off point: When asked the purpose of the Trappist life in the modern world, he said that it is 'to show you don't need a purpose.' The purpose of life, he said, is life. 'You're to live your life.'

How to Be offers a window into two people living their lives on purpose (or not) and struggling to come to terms with the big issues everyone faces: faith, mortality, mystery, prayer, work. It is a book that provides insight and inspiration for those walking the spiritual path—particularly for those interested in the contemplative path.

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Praised as "an inherently fascinating, absorbing, thoughtful and thought-provoking read" by Midwest Book Review, and described as wise and lyrical by Publishers Weekly in a starred review. Jon M. Sweeney highlights the book's role in making contemplation accessible beyond the monastic world, while other reviewers reflect on its comforting and calming wisdom drawn from the authentic friendship between a monk and a laywoman.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781642970340

Publisher: Red Wheel/Weiser

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 18 October 2021

Country: United States

Imprint: Hampton Roads Publishing Co

Contributors:

  • Foreword by Kathleen Norris

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 133.0mm

Height: 216.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 208

About the Author

Judith Valente is a former staff writer for the Washington Post and the Wall Street Journal and a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize in journalism. She is a former correspondent for PBS's Religion & Ethics NewsWeekly and senior correspondent for investigative reporting and long features at the NPR affiliate in central Illinois. She was also a special correspondent covering faith and values and arts and culture for Chicago Public Radio. Valente contributes articles to US Catholic magazine and National Catholic Reporter. She lives in Normal, Illinois. Learn more at www.judithvalente.com.
Brother Paul Quenon, OCSO, entered the Trappist Abbey of Gethsemani in 1958 at the age of 17. Thomas Merton was his novice master and spiritual director. Quenon is the author of 9 collections of poetry. His memoir, In Praise of the Useless Life, was praised by Sue Monk Kidd, Pico Iyer, and Kathleen Norris.

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