Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

Name: Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life
Brand: Hachette Aotearoa New Zealand
SKU: 9780762458967
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The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

By Tracy Schorn

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Summary

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life by Tracy Schorn is a bold self-help guide designed for those who have been cheated on. Unlike typical advice focused on the cheater, this book centres on the needs and recovery of the betrayed partner, offering humour and sharp insight. It includes practical wisdom on recognising manipulative excuses, avoiding common pitfalls, reclaiming self-respect, and moving forward with strength and hope.
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Format: Paperback / softback

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This book is ideal for anyone dealing with infidelity in their relationship and seeking a fresh, honest, and empowering perspective on healing. It will especially resonate with readers who appreciate candid advice with a touch of humour.

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The book is a snarky yet powerful how-to guide to surviving infidelity when you are the one being cheated on-complete with hilarious hand-drawn cartoons, real-life stories, and invaluable advice. ChumpLady.com receives more than 300K page views per month and the self-published edition was in the top 100 in Divorce on Amazon.

Description

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity, but saving your sanity.

When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters, their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blame-shifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs.

Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirising the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on:

Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond,
Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears,
Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780762458967

Publisher: Running Press,U.S.

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 10 May 2016

Country: United States

Imprint: Running Press Adult

Illustration: colour illustrations throughout

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 18.0mm

Width: 151.0mm

Height: 202.0mm

Weight: 450g

Pages: 240

Collections

Happiness & Mental Health Health & Wellness Mindset & Self Help Motivation & Inspiration Non-Fiction Parenting & Family Personal Development Philosophy & Psychology Self-Help & Personal Development Tracy Schorn

About the Author

Tracy Schorn is a journalist who runs the successful infidelity blog Chump Lady (ChumpLady.com), and whose snarky wisdom and cartoons have helped thousands of chumps leave cheaters. Tracy is a regular contributor to Huffington Post Divorce, was recognized by Babble as one of the Top 10 Relationship Bloggers of 2013," and is a relationship blogger for the BlogHer network. She lives in Lockhart, Texas with her husband, also a former chump.

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