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You Can't Say That to Me
Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse--An 8- Step Program
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You can't say that to me! "Can't you do anything right?" "I can't believe you would feed that junk to your child!" "What is this? And don't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that. " "If you really cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way.
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You Can't Say That to Me
"Can't you do anything right?"
"I can't believe you would feed that junk to your child!"
"What is this? And don't tell me it's a casserole, I already know that."
"If you really cared about me, you wouldn't behave this way."
Sound familiar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of very unpleasant language from those who are closest to usβspouses, employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant; it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalating arguments and physical violence.
Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your lifeβwithout ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved ones.
Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralise verbal attacks and discourage future abuse with:
- An 8-step program that helps you recognise the patterns of verbal abuse
- Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess
- Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyse abusive situations, evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress
In this book, Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for yourself, quickly and forever.
Book Details
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ISBN: 9780471003991
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons Inc
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 23 March 1995
Country: United States
Imprint: John Wiley & Sons Inc
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 16.0mm
Width: 152.0mm
Height: 229.0mm
Weight: 263g
Pages: 224
About the Author
SUZETTE HADEN ELGIN, Ph.D., is an expert in applied psycholinguistics and the founder of the Ozark Center for Language Studies. She is the author of eight "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" titles, including Genderspeak: Men, Women, and the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, also published by Wiley. She lives with her family near Huntsville, Arkansas.
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