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When You're Not OK

A toolkit for tough times
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From Jill Stark, bestselling author of Happy Never After, comes this warm and practical book of tips and wisdom to help guide you through the tough times.

This is a self-care manual for the days when you feel alone – the days when you worry that you're too weird or broken or unfixable to be normal. With compassion, humour, and honesty, Jill offers signposts to help you find the path back to yourself.

Whether you're having a bad day, or a run of bad days that seems never-ending, When You're Not OK is an emotional first-aid kit for your body, mind, and soul, written by someone who's been there too.

'This snappy little manual ... for those who are struggling and receiving negative messages from their inner critic ... A handy, feel-good volume of tips and advice for contented living.'
-Library Journal

Praise for Happy Never After:

'Extraordinary ... Stark addresses this vexed question of what effect our over-stimulated, almost constantly wired brains are having on our sense of wellbeing.'
-Johann Hari, author of Lost Connections

'This is a book we need. Highly, highly recommended. Puts a deft finger on many things that I guarantee have been quietly troubling you for a while. A book for our times.'
-Susan Carland, author of Fighting Hislam: Women, Faith and Sexism

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781925849332

Publisher: Scribe Publications

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 03 September 2019

Country: Australia

Imprint: Scribe Publications

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 18.0mm

Width: 128.0mm

Height: 167.0mm

Weight: 262g

Pages: 160

About the Author

Jill Stark is an award-winning journalist, author, and mental health advocate, with a career spanning more than two decades in both the UK and Australia. She spent ten years on staff at The Age covering health and social affairs as a senior writer and columnist. She now works as a freelance journalist, speechwriter, media consultant, content creator, and public speaker. Her first book, High Sobriety, was longlisted for the Walkley Book award and shortlisted for the Kibble Literary Awards. Her other books, Happy Never After and When You're Not OK, are mental health memoirs offering hope and connection to anyone doing it tough.

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