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The Inner Self

The joy of discovering who we really are
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The Inner Self delves into the psychological barriers we create to hide from our true selves. Drawing on profound research, Hugh Mackay reveals how fear of love's demands often leads us to seek refuge in addictions, materialism, nostalgia, and victimhood. Through exploring these 'top 20' hiding places, the book guides readers towards embracing love as the ultimate path to emotional security, personal serenity and authentic confidence.
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How can I get in touch with this real self, underlying all my surface behaviour? How can I become myself? β€” Carl Rogers, US psychotherapist

The Inner Self is a book about the ways we hide from the truth about ourselves and the psychological freedom we enjoy when we finally face that most searching question of all: 'Who am I, really?'

Hugh Mackay explores our 'top 20' hiding placesβ€” from addiction to materialism, nostalgia to victimhood. He explains how it is our fear of love's demands that drive us into hiding.

He argues that love is our highest ideal, the richest source of life's meaning and purpose, and the key to our emotional security, personal serenity and confidence.

Yet Mackay exposes the great paradox of human nature: while love brings out our best, we don't always want our best brought forward.

Powerfully written and drawing on a lifetime of research, The Inner Self is a work of extraordinary insight by one of Australia's most respected psychologists.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781760787745

Publisher: Pan Macmillan Australia

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 11 August 2020

Country: Australia

Imprint: Macmillan Australia

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 25.0mm

Width: 153.0mm

Height: 232.0mm

Weight: 400g

Pages: 320

About the Author

Hugh Mackay is a social researcher and bestselling author of 21 books, including What Makes Us Tick, The Good Life and Australia Reimagined. He has had a 60-year career in social research, and was a weekly newspaper columnist for over 25 years. Hugh is a Fellow of the Australian Psychological Society and the Royal Society of NSW. In recognition of his pioneering work in social research, he has been awarded honorary doctorates by Charles Sturt, Macquarie, NSW, Western Sydney and Wollongong universities. He was appointed an Officer of the Order of Australia in 2015.

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