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You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For

A New Approach to Intimate Relationships with the Internal Family Systems Model
By Richard Schwartz
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You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz delves into the realm of self-discovery and personal relationships. It explores the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model, encouraging readers to understand and harmonise their internal parts. By integrating these insights, individuals can improve their relationships, fostering deeper connections with themselves and their loved ones.
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This book may appeal to you if you're interested in self-discovery and improving personal relationships. You might enjoy it if you're looking to explore how understanding your inner self can enhance connection with family and loved ones. Richard Schwartz offers insight into embracing every part of yourself to foster genuine intimacy and personal growth.

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Practise courageous love and build resilient intimacy with the groundbreaking IFS model of therapy.

'A must read' - Esther Perel

'My relationship bible' - Gabby Bernstein

'Releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships' - Bessel van der Kolk

Most loving relationships fail, not because of communication or empathy breakdown, but because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for disowned and unloved parts of ourselves, our 'internal family'.

Building on the revolutionary Internal Family Systems model of therapy, Dr Richard Schwartz reveals how to reconnect and foster a healthy dialogue with your wise and compassionate 'Self' and your partner. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For will equip you with the essential tools needed to build trust and connection with the one you love.

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You Are the One You've Been Waiting For by Richard Schwartz receives high praise for its insights into self-compassion and improving relationships. Acclaimed by experts such as Esther Perel and Bessel van der Kolk, the book is celebrated for enhancing connection and providing therapeutic guidance. It is regarded as a transformative resource for fostering love and personal growth.

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ISBN: 9781785045127

Publisher: Ebury Publishing

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 23 November 2023

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Vermilion

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 16.0mm

Width: 136.0mm

Height: 216.0mm

Weight: 210g

Pages: 208

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About the Author

Richard C. Schwartz is a systemic family therapist and creator of the revolutionary Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy. He is currently in the faculty at Harvard Medical School and is the author of No Bad Parts, Introduction to Internal Family Systems and You Are the One You've Been Waiting For.

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