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The Queer Parent

Everything You Need to Know From Gay to Ze
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The Queer Parent is an essential, informative, and empowering guide for LGBTQ+ individuals navigating parenthood. Written by Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley, hosts of the award-winning podcast Some Families, the book draws on expert interviews and personal experiences with IUI and adoption. Addressing the unique challenges faced by queer parentsβ€”such as adoption, surrogacy, fertility treatments, trans parenting, and handling homophobiaβ€”it provides a groundbreaking toolkit for LGBTQ+ parents, prospective parents, and supporters. It redefines what family means in the modern age, emphasising that 90% of queer parenting is just parenting.
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This book is ideal for LGBTQ+ parents and prospective parents seeking guidance, as well as friends, family members, allies, and anyone interested in understanding diverse family structures. It is also recommended for general readers wishing to broaden their knowledge of contemporary parenting challenges faced by the queer community.

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The ultimate parenting handbook for LGBTQ+ people, from the hosts of the award-winning podcast Some Families.

The ultimate parenting handbook for LGBTQ+ people, from the hosts of the award-winning podcast Some Families.

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'A must read for any queer person who is, or wants to be, a parent.' - Will Young

This informative, funny and empowering book from the hosts of the award-winning podcast Some Families is the must-have parenting toolkit for the LGBTQ+ community, their friends, family and allies.

LGBTQ+ people have more options than ever before when it comes to starting a family, but a lack of both focused information and mainstream representation can leave parents, prospective parents, friends and relatives in the dark. Authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley spoke to dozens of experts and queer families, and this hugely-needed book is the product of those conversations and their own experiences of becoming parents through IUI and adoption respectively.

90% of queer parenting is just... parenting, but being LGBTQ+ when you're a parent does bring with it a host of conundrums that mainstream guidesβ€”which tend to assume heterosexualityβ€”do not address. From adoption, surrogacy, fertility treatment and other routes to parenthood, to donors, trans parenting, how to deal with family-focused homophobia, coming out at the school gates and much more, The Queer Parent is a groundbreaking toolkit for LGBTQ+ parents, parents-to-be, and anyone looking to support their journey. It is a book that redefines the family for the modern age.

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Praised as an indispensable and urgently necessary guide, The Queer Parent has received acclaim for its knowledge, empathy, humour, and hopeful tone. Mary Portas says it would have made her feel less alone. Elizabeth Day calls it urgently necessary, while Suzi Ruffell highlights its blend of empathy and laughs. Anna Whitehouse describes it as eye-opening, and Will Young calls it a must read. Numerous reviewers note its kindness, inclusivity, and fresh perspectives, recommending it not only to queer families but to allies and straight readers eager to understand modern family dynamics.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781035001828

Publisher: Pan Macmillan

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 11 May 2023

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Bluebird

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 38.0mm

Width: 145.0mm

Height: 223.0mm

Weight: 510g

Pages: 304

About the Author

Lotte Jeffs is an award-winning magazine writer, editor, author and podcaster. They are a contributing editor for Grazia and have hosted the award-winning podcast Some Families as well as Grazia Life Advice. Lotte writes for broadsheet newspapers and international magazines and was previously Deputy Editor of ELLE. Lotte's first children's book My Magic Family, is published by Puffin, and her debut novel will be published by Dialogue in 2024. Lotte lives in London with her wife, daughter and two kittens. Stu Oakley is a film publicist and award-winning podcaster. Stu has written a number of opinion pieces for the Guardian, Grazia, ELLE and Attitude. In his day job as a film publicist, Stu has worked on some of the biggest film franchises of all time including Star Wars, Harry Potter, Frozen and Jurassic World. He thought he was well-versed in dealing with divas . . . until he had toddlers! Stu lives in Hertfordshire with his husband and their three children.

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