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Do Ask, Do Tell
Queer Life, Love and Culture Laid Bare
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What is a black cat lesbian? Is 'aromantic' a sexuality or a preference? How are bisexual and pansexual different? What's it like to be queer and religious? Does Gen Z do darkrooms? How do you navigate life as an OAQ (Old Age Queer)? What does trans...
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Join writers Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley – your intrepid queer explorers – as they seek to answer all the questions you've ever had about LGBTQ+ life.
From sticky dancefloors to pushing prams, from drag to dealing with hate and homophobia and from dressing rooms to churches, schools and old people's homes, this book unboxes the diversity of the queer experience - because there is no right or wrong way to be LGBTQ+.
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What is a black cat lesbian? Is 'aromantic' a sexuality or a preference? How are bisexual and pansexual different? What's it like to be queer and religious? Does Gen Z do darkrooms? How do you navigate life as an OAQ (Old Age Queer)? What does trans euphoria feel like? Why is nightlife so central to the community? What is camp today?
As queer people themselves, authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley knew they didn't have all the answers, because their individual experience represents a single pixel of the rainbow. Do Ask, Do Tell is an unapologetically curious journey through the dazzling spectrum of queer life that will give people - queer, straight, cis, and everything in-between - the confidence to say 'I don't know'.
With humour, warmth, and radically open minds, Stu and Lotte tackle the questions you may have avoided asking for fear of getting it wrong. Covering everything from ageing to open relationships, darkrooms to Drag Kings, camp to carabinas, as well as the intricacies of gender and sexuality.
This insightful and provocative exploration challenges assumptions, shatters taboos, and opens up the conversation. Whether you're seeking clarity for your cis straight self or deeper insight as a member of the community, this book is your guide to better understanding and celebrating the richness of queer life.
Bursting with empathy, understanding and humour - Suzi Ruffell, bestselling author of Am I Having Fun Now?
Book Details
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ISBN: 9781035042098
Publisher: Pan Macmillan
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 21 May 2026
Country: United Kingdom
Imprint: Bluebird
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 16.0mm
Width: 129.0mm
Height: 197.0mm
Weight: 190g
Pages: 272
About the Author
Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley are the authors of The Queer Parent and hosts of the award-winning Some Families, the UK's leading LGBTQ+ parenting podcast. Lotte is a leading journalist and author of acclaimed novel This Love and children's book My Magic Family. Stu Oakley is a film publicist and occasional freelance journalist, having written for The Guardian, Grazia, ELLE and Attitude. In his day job he has worked on some of the biggest film franchises of all time including Star Wars, Harry Potter and Jurassic World.
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