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Six Conversations We're Scared to Have

How to change minds, including your own - 'The book we need right now' (David Tennant)
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From the bestselling author of The Guilty Feminist, a book about how to change minds - including your own 'An essential guide for fostering nuanced and intricate conversations in today's polarized society' GILLIAN ANDERSON 'Tackles thorny, volatile issues with wit and insight' INDEPENDENT, BOOKS OF THE... Read More
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A brave, witty and surprising intervention in the culture wars, by the bestselling author of The Guilty Feminist

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From the bestselling author of The Guilty Feminist, a book about how to change minds - including your own

'An essential guide for fostering nuanced and intricate conversations in today's polarized society' GILLIAN ANDERSON

'Tackles thorny, volatile issues with wit and insight' INDEPENDENT, BOOKS OF THE MONTH

'The book we need right now' DAVID TENNANT

'Thought-provoking and witty' MARIE CLAIRE

'If you have ever felt shut down, this book is a godsend' EMMA THOMPSON

'Shows us that progress lies in the imperfect spaces, where our shared humanity gives empathy the freedom to stretch out' THE TIMES

'Finally! A book to succinctly express the complexity of our age' TOM ALLEN

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We are understandably scared to have difficult conversations right now. But comedian and bestselling writer Deborah Frances-White is even more scared of not having them.

Having grown up in a cult which shut down any dissent, Deborah sees the same tactics being used in our rapidly changing society. She knows the value of freedom of speech, critical thinking and the ability to argue well. And as the host of hit podcast The Guilty Feminist, she has been having difficult conversations in public for almost a decade.

In her new, urgent page-turner Deborah examines how the world has come to this and what we can actually do about it. Most importantly, she explores how to change minds, including our own. Deborah invites us to boldly meet this moment in history with hope, clarity and courage. She has written, as Desiree Burch says, 'a book to leave you transformed.'

Are you ready to talk?

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780349015828

Publisher: Little, Brown Book Group

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 03 April 2025

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Virago Press Ltd

Audience: General / adult, Tertiary education, Professional and scholarly

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 34.0mm

Width: 134.0mm

Height: 214.0mm

Weight: 380g

Pages: 368

About the Author

Deborah Frances-White is a comedian, screenwriter, author and host of the hit podcast The Guilty Feminist. Virago published Deborah's book The Guilty Feminist in 2018, which hit the Sunday Times bestseller charts and confirmed Deborah's reputation as one of the most thought-provoking and accessible writers today. She is an Amnesty International Ambassador.

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