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I've Had to Think Up a Way to Survive

On Trauma, Persistence, and Dolly Parton
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I've Had to Think Up a Way to Survive is a poignant blend of personal memoir and cultural critique where Lynn Melnick explores her journey as a woman, survivor, and artist through the lens of Dolly Parton's music and legacy. Beginning with her harrowing experiences as a Jewish teen facing trauma in the 1980s, Melnick finds a kindred spirit in Parton's songs, which she analyses to confront themes of violence, misogyny, creativity, and resilience. Each chapter delves into a Parton song, weaving social commentary and personal reflection into a bold narrative of survival, voice reclamation, and self-discovery.
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Ideal for readers interested in feminist memoirs, cultural criticism, and those seeking inspiring stories of survival and empowerment. Fans of Dolly Parton, women's studies, and those exploring the intersections of trauma and creativity will find this work particularly resonant.

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An ode to storytelling itself... A gorgeous and heart-rending story of survival. - Melissa Febos, author of Girlhood

A moving and essential exploration of what it takes to find your voice as a woman, a survivor, an artist, and an icon.

The first time Lynn Melnick listened to a Dolly Parton song in full, she was 14 years old, in the triage room of a Los Angeles hospital, waiting to be admitted to a drug rehab programme. Already in her young life as a Jewish teen in the 1980s, she had been the victim of rape, abuse, and trauma, and her path to healing would be long. But in Parton's words and music, she recognised a fellow survivor.

In this powerful, incisive work of social- and self-exploration, Melnick blends personal essay with cultural criticism to explore Parton's dual identities as feminist icon and objectified sex symbol, identities that reflect the author's own fraught history with rape culture and the arduous work of reclaiming her voice. Each chapter engages with the artistry and impact of one of Parton's songs, as Melnick reckons with violence, misogyny, creativity, parenting, friendship, sex, love, and the consolations and cruelties of religion. Bold and inventive, I've Had to Think Up a Way to Survive gives us an accessible and memorable framework for understanding our times and a revelatory account of survival, persistence, and self-discovery.

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Haunted by trauma yet marked by hope, Melnick's book is praised for its rich, intimate storytelling and nuanced cultural insight. Hanif Abdurraqib calls it a "rich, close reading of multiple lives," while The Atlantic highlights her candid yet incisive prose. Publishers Weekly awards it a starred review, lauding its compelling fusion of memoir and criticism, describing it as "a gorgeous story of survival and self-discovery." This is a courageous, masterfully crafted exploration of identity and resilience.

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ISBN: 9781954118478

Publisher: Random House USA Inc

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 14 September 2023

Country: United States

Imprint: Spiegel & Grau

Illustration: Illustrations

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 140.0mm

Height: 216.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 280

About the Author

Lynn Melnick is the author of three books of poetry and a contributor to Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture. Her poems have appeared in the New Republic, the New Yorker, and the Paris Review; her essays have appeared in Jewish Currents, LA Review of Books, and Poetry Daily. Born in Indianapolis, she grew up in Los Angeles and currently lives in Brooklyn.

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