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Helping Children with Loss

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Helping Children with Loss is a fully updated professional guidebook designed to assist adults in providing emotional support to children aged 4-12 who have experienced the loss of someone or something significant. Written in an accessible and sensitive style, it equips adults with a rich vocabulary for understanding mental states and painful emotions, enabling meaningful and healing conversations.

The book includes practical activities that encourage children to express their feelings creatively and imaginatively when words are insufficient. It offers targeted advice for children who may dissociate from grief and provides tools and strategies to help them cope, including engaging, non-threatening activities. Photocopiable and downloadable resources are included to facilitate support.

Authored by an experienced child psychotherapist, this essential resource supports emotional literacy and helps children connect with unresolved feelings influencing their behaviour.
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This book is ideal for professionals and adults supporting children aged 4-12 through grief and loss. It is particularly suitable for child therapists, educators, social workers, and caregivers seeking practical, sensitive strategies to aid children in navigating difficult emotions and developing emotional resilience.

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This guidebook has been created to help adults provide emotional support for children who have experienced the loss of somebody they know. An essential resource for anybody supporting children aged 4-12, it will support children to develop emotional literacy and connect with unresolved feelings affecting their behaviour.

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Now in a fully updated second edition, this professional guidebook has been created to help adults provide emotional support for children who have experienced the loss of somebody they know, or something they loved.

Written in an accessible style and with a sensitive tone, Helping Children with Loss provides adults with a rich vocabulary for mental states and painful emotions, paving the way for meaningful and healing conversations with children who are struggling with difficult feelings. Practical activities provide opportunities for conversation and will empower the child to find creative and imaginative ways of expressing themselves when words fail.

Key features of this resource include:

  • Targeted advice for children who defend against feeling their painful feelings by dissociating from grief
  • Tools and strategies for helping children cope with loss, including engaging activities to help children explore their feelings in a non-threatening way
  • Photocopiable and downloadable resources to help facilitate support

Written by a leading child psychotherapist with over thirty years’ experience, this book will support children to develop emotional literacy and connect with unresolved feelings affecting their behaviour. It is an essential resource for anybody supporting children aged 4-12 who have experienced loss.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781032101910

Publisher: Taylor & Francis Ltd

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 29 April 2022

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Routledge

Edition: 2nd edition

Illustration: 23 Line drawings, color; 23 Illustrations, color

Audience: Tertiary education, Professional and scholarly

DIMENSIONS

Width: 210.0mm

Height: 297.0mm

Weight: 330g

Pages: 92

About the Author

Margot Sunderland is Director of Education and Training at The Centre for Child Mental Health London, Co-Director of Trauma Informed Schools UK, Honorary Visiting Fellow at London Metropolitan University, Senior Associate Member of the Royal College of Medicine, and Child Psychotherapist with over thirty years’ experience of working with children, teenagers (many in residential care homes) and families. She is also a qualified secondary school teacher.

Margot is author of over twenty books in the field of child mental health, which collectively have been translated into eighteen languages and published in twenty-four countries. Her internationally acclaimed book, β€˜The Science of Parenting’ (Dorling Kindersley) won a First Prize in the British Medical Association Medical Book awards and has been voted as one of the best brain books of our time by The Dana Foundation. Dr Sunderland has been studying the neuroscience of adult-child relationships for 17 years. Dr Sunderland is also founding Director of The Institute for Arts in Therapy and Education, a Higher Education College and Academic Partner of University of East London. The College runs Masters Degrees/Diplomas in Child Psychotherapy, Child Counselling, Parent-Child Therapy and Therapeutic Play.

Nicky Armstrong holds an MA from the Slade School of Fine Art and a BA Hons in Theatre Design from the University of Central England. She has illustrated over 34 books in the mental health field which have been translated into 5 languages/countries. She works full time as an illustrator and fine artist. She has achieved major commissions nationally and internationally in mural work and fine art.

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