A Nice Guy Like Me

A no-holds-barred look at the last golden age of gay studio porn before the DIY OnlyFans revolution, A Nice Guy Like Me is one man's tale of finding industry stardom almost overnight—and how his demons caught up to him at the height of his success.

As a child and a young adult, Spencer was raised on adventure. From moving to and living in South Africa at six years old to becoming a 'boy toy' in London at the age of 19, he was exposed to feelings of wonder and excitement and to the rewards and lessons of taking chances.

When his 17-year relationship ended at the age of 36, with a single email and attached photos, his life changed forever. Within two weeks, he became an exclusive for Titan Media, the premier gay adult film company, and then spent the next 30 months as Spencer Quest, finding himself at the pinnacle of the industry, on DVD and magazine covers, winning industry awards, and headlining a show off-Broadway.

But his childhood was also filled with feelings of fear, abandonment, and an understanding that, even at the age of seven and against his will, his body held power over men. During his short career in the adult industry, his past began to emerge, traumas remembered, and he began a descent back into a world of addiction and mental health challenges, including severe episodes of self-hatred and self-harm that had haunted him all his life.

More than just a porn memoir, A Nice Guy Like Me is a journey of life, a "heroic journey" to the author, one he believes is similar to everyone else's. Filled with pain and joy, desperation and hope, and, of course, sex, the memoir offers deep vulnerability and a ruthless self-examination of the choices made in life, their subsequent consequences, and the lessons that emerge.