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Secure Relating

Holding Your Own in an Insecure World
By Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott
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Secure Relating offers a refreshing and innovative approach to understanding and improving relationships in today's increasingly polarised world. Drawing on over thirty years of professional clinical experience, authors Ann Kelley, Ph.D and Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP integrate modern attachment theory, relational neuroscience, and depth psychology into... Read More
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Secure Relating offers a refreshing and innovative approach to understanding and improving relationships in today's increasingly polarised world. Drawing on over thirty years of professional clinical experience, authors Ann Kelley, Ph.D and Sue Marriott, LCSW, CGP integrate modern attachment theory, relational neuroscience, and depth psychology into practical tools for deepening self-awareness and navigating closeness with strength in even the most challenging relationships.

Instead of the popular broad attachment categorisations, Secure Relating presents a nuanced understanding of attachment and interpersonal defensive patterns, allowing readers to delve into the complexities of their own experience and apply the specific skills they need.

Refreshingly, Kelley and Marriott make complex concepts accessible and relatable, emphasising the realistic capacity for neural change and psychological growth. They provide contemporary concepts and interactive tools such as the Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum, a new framework that helps readers identify their unconscious defensive patterns, update and revise their personal narratives, and cultivate a secure state of mind amid chaos and adversity.

Secure Relating delivers hope, connection, and empowerment amidst the many barriers to emotional closeness and provocations towards self-protection by offering a comprehensive approach to understanding and transforming all kinds of relationships into more secure and satisfying bonds.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780063334557

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Inc

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 23 May 2024

Country: United States

Imprint: Harper

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 27.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 229.0mm

Weight: 476g

Pages: 352

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Ann Kelley Education & Reference Health & Wellness Mindset & Self Help New Year, New You Non-Fiction Personal Development Philosophy & Psychology Self-Help & Personal Development Sue Marriott

About the Author

Sue Marriott is a clinical social worker, educator, and podcaster who has worked with individuals and groups in private practice in Austin TX for over 30 years. Her passion is bridging the life-changing relational sciences to those who would otherwise not have access to it. In that spirit, she co-founded an organization that brings attachment and relational neurobiology to students, local therapists, and the public called Austin Interpersonal Neurobiology (IN) Connection and served on the Board of The Global Assn for Interpersonal Neurobiology Studies (GAINS). The top-rated podcast, Therapist Uncensored, is an outgrowth of this passion and a partnership with her wife, Dr. Ann Kelley. Ann Kelley, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist who received her doctorate from the University of Texas at Austin. She runs her own psychotherapy practice specializing in relational work. Dr. Kelley is the co-founder and co-host of the internationally recognized Therapist Uncensored Podcast. She and her wife and co-author, Sue Marriott, live in Austin, Texas where they raised their three now-launched children. Her professional work and writing is motivated by her ongoing concern about the toxic strategies being used by media and political forces that provoke fear, anger and polarization. Her biggest hope for this book is to ignite an open resistance to this path and promote deep and wide conversations towards secure relating.

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