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The Selfish Romantic

How to date without feeling bad about yourself
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The Selfish Romantic by Michelle Elman is a transformative guide to modern dating and self-love. It challenges the belief that we must settle or tolerate poor treatment because we don’t meet certain standards. Through expert advice on boundaries, body positivity, and mindset, Michelle empowers readers to enjoy single life, approach dating without fear of rejection, and embrace their own worth. The book covers unravelling myths, handling ghosting, mastering text etiquette, and confidently taking relationships offline, helping readers to navigate love with self-respect and joy.
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The Selfish Romantic is ideal for readers interested in parenting and family, particularly those navigating modern dating challenges and seeking guidance on self-worth, boundaries, and healthy relationships. It is suited to anyone looking to improve their love life while fostering body positivity and emotional empowerment.

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Combining Michelle's expertise in boundaries and body positivity, this is your guide to navigating the modern dating landscape.

Combining Michelle's expertise in boundaries and body positivity, this is your guide to navigating the modern dating landscape.

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How many people are walking through the world convinced that they have to settle?

How many people are being treated badly because they think they don't tick desirable boxes?

How fun would it be to be single without questioning your loveability, to date without taking rejection personally, and to have sex without hating your body?

Nearly every question life coach and queen of boundaries Michelle Elman is asked relates to one subject: dating.

Including unravelling myths about single life, changing your dating mindset, dealing with ghosting, text etiquette and taking relationships offline, The Selfish Romantic will teach you how to empower your love life like never before.

Combining Michelle's expertise in boundaries and body positivity, this is your guide to navigating the modern dating landscape.

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'Written in undeniable Michelle Elman style; this book is carefully researched, incredibly relatable and filled with firm yet compassionate advice,' praises Megan Jayne Crabbe, calling it a relationship guide essential for dating without losing oneself. Grace Victory highlights its honesty and authenticity, appreciating how it empathetically holds readers accountable while exploring the complexities of modern romance. Louise Pentland describes Michelle as a must-read author in mental health and relationships and urges readers to embrace her work immediately. Overall, reviews commend the book’s empowering, informative, and witty approach.

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ISBN: 9781802795028

Publisher: Headline Publishing Group

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 05 January 2023

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Welbeck

Audience: General / adult, Tertiary education, Professional and scholarly

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 30.0mm

Width: 218.0mm

Height: 142.0mm

Weight: 447g

Pages: 320

About the Author

Michelle Elman is a five-board accredited life coach, broadcaster and public speaker. Named as one of The Sun's most inspirational women in the UK, Michelle quickly established herself as the Queen of Boundaries. With a following of over 500,000, Michelle is a media favourite celebrated by the likes of Stylist, Glamour and Grazia. ITV daytime, BBC, the Telegraph and Guardian have shared Michelle's wisdom, and with appearances on The Today Show, Teen Vogue, E! News and MTV, it's no surprise her message has gone global. With two best-selling books which changed the landscape of mental health literary genre, Michelle's third release in 2023 will again break the mould in the best of ways. Cosmopolitan said best by praising her most recent The Joy of Being Selfish (Welbeck January 2021) as one of the best books on mental health that everyone should read.

You can find her at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter.

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