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A Story of Family, Love, and Other Traumas
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Named one of Zibby Owens's Most Anticipated Books of Fall 2024 "The best memoirs reveal the worlds of others and help you reflect on your own. With a keen eye on family secrets and generational trauma, this one does just that" — People Magazine “Julie Fingersh’s... Read More
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A rich memoir that explores the complexity of relationships, the cost of family secrets, and the quest to help loved ones struggling with illness without losing ourselves.

A rich memoir that explores the complexity of relationships, the cost of family secrets, and the quest to help loved ones struggling with illness without losing ourselves.

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Named one of Zibby Owens's Most Anticipated Books of Fall 2024

"The best memoirs reveal the worlds of others and help you reflect on your own. With a keen eye on family secrets and generational trauma, this one does just that" — People Magazine

“Julie Fingersh’s Stay is so rich, wise, funny, and beautifully written. It’s hard to put down once you start." — Anne Lamott, #1 New York Times bestselling author

"Fingersh's story should help readers dealing with family secrets and mental and physical health issues feel less alone." — Booklist

A riveting debut that captures the joyous and painful complexity of family love and loyalty, the cost of family secrets, and the quest to help the people we love most without losing our own way. It’s also a rare window into two of the biggest epidemics gripping society today: mental illness and chronic illness and the ways in which they affect relationships, personal identity, and the blueprint of our lives.

Told through the eyes of the author as both a young sibling and a mid-life parent, Julie Fingersh seamlessly weaves together present and past, unlocking the puzzle of her early adulthood with her struggling brother from the vantage point of a mid-life parent on the verge of an empty nest and her next chapter, just as her college-bound daughter’s life suddenly careens off track.

Sparkling with warmth, wit, and lyrical prose, Fingersh provides insight and sustenance for everyone wrestling with mid-life’s ghosts, parenting adult children, and the twin pillagers of fear and the inner critic. Above all, Stay is for readers who want to think, feel, laugh, cry, and perhaps see their own life’s trajectory and path forward with new eyes.

Book Details

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ISBN: 9798216452195

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing Plc

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 15 October 2026

Country: United States

Imprint: Rowman & Littlefield

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 18.0mm

Width: 138.0mm

Height: 210.0mm

Weight: 340g

Pages: 248

About the Author

Julie Fingersh is a writer, journalist, and the author of Stay: A Story of Family, Love & Other Traumas (Rowman & Littlefield/Bloomsbury; 2024), praised by NYT best-selling authors Anne Lamott, Anna Quindlen, and Gretchen Rubin and named one of People Magazine’s Best Books of 2024 . Julie’s work has appeared in Julie’s work has been New York Times, Oprah, The San Francisco Chronicle, the Kansas City Star, and more. Her Substack column, Take My Advice. I’m Not Using It. is a mid-life sequel to the award-winning humorist column she wrote in her 20s for Billboard. Julie lives with her husband in Marin County, California and New Haven, Connecticut.

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