Why Do I Keep Doing This?
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Why Do I Keep Doing This?
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See moreA helpful guide to understanding why people-pleasing, perfectionism and control can become detrimental to our lives and what to do about it.
Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that our emotional reactions should be controlled so we didn't embarrass or upset our parents. However, if that control oozes over into our adult relationships, it's considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Some sides of control are meant to keep us safe, while others harm connections. So, what are we supposed to do?
In Why Do I Keep Doing This?, licensed therapist Kati Morton explores this common struggle. She shows how our anxiety is often connected to feeling like we are too much or less deserving of time and care. Difficulties with asserting ourselves, or taking what we require, can harm our development, and we sometimes think the only way to feel okay is to please everyone else first. Why Do I Keep Doing This? is a vital tool in helping us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives. We all go through tough times, but we have to notice what behaviours are holding us back and change them.
Why Do I Keep Doing This? will shed light on shared struggles as readers follow Kati through key points of growth in her own life, while incorporating what she has learned as a therapist and content creator who knows how to create lasting healthy change. This book will give readers the ability to not only ask themselves why do I keep doing this? but also have the insight to find a real answer.
Book Details
INFORMATION
ISBN: 9781035422005
Publisher: Headline Publishing Group
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 09 December 2025
Country: United Kingdom
Imprint: Headline Press
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Width: 153.0mm
Height: 234.0mm
Weight: 250g
Pages: 256
About the Author
Kati Morton is widely recognised as a leading mental health advocate and educator. She holds a masters in clinical psychology and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She has a passion for education and empowerment and shares helpful insights through her YouTube channel. Kati is the author of two books, Are You Ok? and Traumatized. She hopes that by speaking candidly about mental health, and encouraging her viewers to reach out to get the support they need, we can remove the stigma associated with getting help.
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