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Come as You Are: Revised and Updated

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
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Come as You Are: Revised and Updated by Emily Nagoski delves into the complexities of female sexuality, examining the diverse ways women's bodies and minds experience desire and arousal. By integrating scientific research with relatable narratives, the book offers insights to help women understand and embrace their unique sexual experiences, promoting overall well-being in their intimate lives. This revised edition includes updated content to reflect the latest findings in the field.
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This book may appeal to you if you're interested in understanding female sexuality in a comprehensive and scientifically-backed manner. It provides valuable insights into sexual well-being, debunking myths and focusing on empowerment and self-acceptance. Ideal for those who value a nuanced approach to intimacy and wish to enhance their personal relationships.

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"A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski's game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life"--

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A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski's game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women's sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequentlyβ€”and far less seriouslyβ€”than its male counterpart.

That is, until Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they're organised but how you feel about them. In the years since the book's initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski's accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman's sexual wellbeing; they are central to itβ€”and that even if you don't always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself.

This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of sex so that everyone can create a better sex life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

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Emily Nagoski's Come as You Are: Revised and Updated is praised for being an insightful and transformative guide on female sexuality. Critics highlight its engaging synthesis of recent research, sex-positive information, and practical advice. It's celebrated for its empowering tone and profound impact on understanding sexual arousal, debunking myths, and offering long-lasting improvement to one's sexual life.

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Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781982165314

Publisher: Simon & Schuster

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 02 March 2021

Country: United States

Imprint: Simon & Schuster

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 28.0mm

Width: 150.0mm

Height: 224.0mm

Weight: 386g

Pages: 400

About the Author

Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, and the coauthor of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She has an MS in counseling and a PhD in health behavior, both from Indiana University.

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