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Thriving in a Relationship When You Have Chronic Illness

Navigate Challenges and Keep Your Relationship Strong Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
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A grief-informed guide to help you and your romantic partner stay connected—despite the challenges of chronic illness. You're living your happily-ever-after with your partner and suddenly—you get sick. What now? Chronic illness can have a devastating impact on your life—especially when it comes to your romantic... Read More
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A grief-informed guide to help you and your romantic partner stay connected—despite the challenges of chronic illness.

You're living your happily-ever-after with your partner and suddenly—you get sick. What now? Chronic illness can have a devastating impact on your life—especially when it comes to your romantic relationship. You may be so focused on your health that you often have to put your relationship second. You might feel guilty that you can't do the things you used to do together. And you may even worry that you are a burden to your partner. So, how can you come to terms with your own chronic illness, and nurture your relationship at the same time?

Grounded in evidence-based acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), this grief-informed guide offers powerful skills to help you and your partner adjust to a chronic illness diagnosis, communicate effectively, and protect your bond at each stage of the journey for a lasting and healthy relationship. You'll learn positive coping strategies to help you manage difficult emotions such as anger, sadness, and grief; promote intimacy and understanding between you and your partner; and identify what it is that truly matters to each of you—so you can move forward in your lives with your values closely aligned.

Chronic illness is now a part of your life—but it doesn't have to define your life, or your relationship. Once you've healed from the initial shock and trauma of a diagnosis, you will need to build lasting coping skills to navigate life with your partner. This evidence-based guide can help you, each step of the way.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781648486081

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 11 December 2025

Country: United States

Imprint: New Harbinger Publications

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 14.0mm

Width: 152.0mm

Height: 228.0mm

Weight: 214g

Pages: 144

About the Author

Lisa Gray, LMFT, is a licensed mental health professional with a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she specializes in high-conflict couples and chronic illness/pain. After working as an air traffic controller for ten years, and serving as a peer-debriefing counselor for fellow controllers, Gray decided to go back to school to study counseling. She graduated from John F. Kennedy University in 2004 with a master's degree in clinical counseling, and has been working in the field ever since. Gray is passionate about teaching couples to practice healthy conflict, so that their relationships can thrive and grow. Gray reviews self-help books on her Instagram, Therapy Book Nook. She lives in the Bay Area with her family and three large dogs.

Foreword writer Cynthia Li, MD, graduated from The University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, and has practiced internal medicine in settings as diverse as Kaiser Permanente Medical Center, San Francisco General Hospital, and St. Anthony's Medical Clinic for the homeless. She currently serves on the faculty of the Healer's Art program at the UCSF School of Medicine, and has a private practice in integrative and functional medicine. She lives in Berkeley, CA, with her husband and their two daughters. She is author of Brave New Medicine.

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