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An Honest Woman

A Memoir of Love and Sex Work
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Through the lens of her years spent as a sex worker, Charlotte Shane offers a “rigorous and compulsively readable memoir” (New York magazine) exploring what it means to be a heterosexual woman and a feminist in a misogynistic society. “A memoir of sex work that is... Read More
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Braiding memoir and cultural criticism, XXX is former sex worker Charlotte Shane’s intimate and incisive account of what it means to be a heterosexual woman and a feminist in a misogynistic society.

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Through the lens of her years spent as a sex worker, Charlotte Shane offers a “rigorous and compulsively readable memoir” (New York magazine) exploring what it means to be a heterosexual woman and a feminist in a misogynistic society.

“A memoir of sex work that is also a poignant love story” —The Washington Post

In her early twenties, Charlotte Shane quit her women’s studies graduate program to devote herself to sex work because it was a way to devote herself to men. Her lifelong curiosity about male lust, love, selfishness, and social capital dovetailed with her own insatiable desire for intimacy to sustain a long career in escorting, with unexpectedly poignant results.

Shane uses her “unsparing honesty” (The New York Times Book Review) and her personal and professional history to examine how men and women struggle in their attempts at romantic and sexual bonding, no matter how true their intentions. As she takes stock of her relationships—with clients, with her father, with friends, with married men, and later, with her own husband—she tells a candid and haunting tale of love, marriage, and (in)fidelity, as seen through the eyes of the perpetual “other woman.”

Braiding the personal and the universal, An Honest Woman is a merciless and moving love letter to men and an indictment of habitual dishonesty, a condemnation of every social constraint acting on heterosexual unions, and a hopeful affirmation of the possibility for true connection between men and women.

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INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781982126872

Publisher: Simon & Schuster

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 11 September 2025

Country: United States

Imprint: Simon & Schuster

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 13.0mm

Width: 127.0mm

Height: 178.0mm

Weight: 118g

Pages: 192

About the Author

Charlotte Shane is a nonfiction author and essayist. She is the author of Prostitute Laundry and N.B., both published by TigerBee Press, which she cofounded in 2015. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The New York Times MagazineThe Nation, Bookforum, Harper’s, Sports Illustrated, and elsewhere.

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