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The Non-Monogamy Playbook

Exploring Polyamory and Open Relationships with Confidence
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A guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy, from a relationship and sex educator and influencer with a growing platform. Fantastic. Full to the brim with practical tips and well-researched guidance, this is a comprehensive handbook for the realities of managing... Read More
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A guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy, from a relationship and sex educator and influencer with a growing platform.

Fantastic. Full to the brim with practical tips and well-researched guidance, this is a comprehensive handbook for the realities of managing multiple relationships - PAUL BRUNSON, author and MAFS dating expert

Warm, relatable, and informed AF - MEGAN JAYNE CRABBE, author and presenter

The Non-Monogamy Playbook is the handbook for anyone curious about consensual non-monogamy - polyamory and open relationships.

This is a practical, joyful guide to the rules of non-traditional relationships. It uncovers the long history of non-monogamy and explores why society today still favours monogamous, heteronormative relationships as the gold standard.

Ruby weaves in her own relationship learnings with humour and empathy, and offers empowering tools for dealing with the complexities - and joys - of polyamory. She provides expert but sisterly advice on setting boundaries and cultivating self-compassion, as well as ways to navigate the myriad practical considerations of sustaining multiple relationships.

The Non-Monogamy Playbook shows us that there's joy in having multiple people in your life (platonic, sexy, romantic), but with each connection there is added vulnerability. This is the ultimate modern guide to non-monogamy, helping you create confident, healthy relationships.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781785044816

Publisher: Ebury Publishing

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 30 January 2025

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: Vermilion

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Spine width: 26.0mm

Width: 136.0mm

Height: 216.0mm

Weight: 328g

Pages: 336

About the Author

Ruby Rare is a sex educator on a mission to get people talking more confidently and inclusively about sex. Her work is influenced by her experiences as a queer, non-monogamous, dual-heritage person. Ruby is a qualified relationship and sex educator. She is an ambassador for Brook, the UK's leading sexual health charity for young people, where she worked for five years going into schools, teaching Relationship and Sex Education, and training other sex educators and teachers about pregnancy decision-making, porn and inclusive queerness.

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