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You're Not in Trouble

The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships
Brief Description
An empowering self-coaching guide to help ADHDers understand, repair, and build healthy relationships—with friends, romantic partners, family, and at work—from ADHD coach Kristen Carder, creator of the I Have ADHD podcast. The demands of relationships on the ADHD brain are taxing. You're a good person who... Read More
Format: Hardback
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An empowering self-coaching guide to help ADHDers understand, repair, and build healthy relationships—with friends, romantic partners, family, and at work—from ADHD coach Kristen Carder, creator of the I Have ADHD podcast.

The demands of relationships on the ADHD brain are taxing. You're a good person who wants to do right by people, but it seems that no matter how much you contort yourself, you're still not enough. And somehow, at the same time, you're too much; too loud, too emotional, too impulsive, too messy, too everything.

In You're Not in Trouble, ADHD coach Kristen Carder dives into the five prominent relationships in our lives: friendships, romantic partnerships, parent-child relationships, family-of-origin relationships, and work relationships. She helps you understand ADHD's impact on your relationships and gives you simple, practical steps to improve them. You'll learn how to:

  • Regulate your emotions
  • Prioritize your relationships
  • Understand and communicate your needs
  • Understand rejection sensitivity and how to soothe it
  • Cultivate connection with yourself and others

This book is a gentle journey into creating rewarding relationships with advice that is tailored for the ADHD brain. Using a trauma-informed approach, it guides you towards making sincere, lasting changes in yourself that will strengthen your connections with others—and help you realise that you are finally enough.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9780241800164

Publisher: Dorling Kindersley Ltd

Format: Hardback

Date Published: 08 October 2026

Country: United Kingdom

Imprint: DK RED

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 138.0mm

Height: 222.0mm

Weight: 0g

Pages: 288

About the Author

Kristen Carder is an ADHD coach, creator of the I Have ADHD podcast, and founder of the FOCUSED ADHD Coaching Program. She was diagnosed with ADHD at age 21. In 2021, Kristen completed a general life coach certification, and in 2023, she received her trauma-informed life coach certification. She has completed three trauma-informed mental health conference trainings through Masters Events. Kristen lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and three sons.

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