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When Parents Hurt
Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along
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This book suits parents struggling with difficult relationships with their adolescent or adult children, as well as those seeking empathetic guidance to heal familial bonds. It is particularly valuable for readers interested in psychology, family dynamics, and personal growth.
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See moreA unique book for parents whose relationships with their adolescent or adult children have not turned out as they expected that helps them deal with their pain and sense of loss, and take steps toward healing.
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In When Parents Hurt, psychologist and parent Joshua Coleman, PhD, offers insight, empathy, and perspective to those who have lost the opportunity to be the parent they desperately wanted to be and who are mourning the loss of a harmonious relationship with their child. Through case examples and healing exercises, Dr. Coleman helps parents:
- Reduce anger, guilt, and shame
- Learn how temperament, the teen years, their own or a partner's mistakes, and divorce can strain the parent-child bond
- Come to terms with their own and their child's imperfections
- Develop strategies for rebuilding the relationship or move toward acceptance of what can't be changed
By helping parents recognise what they can do and let go of what they cannot, Dr. Coleman helps families develop more positive ways of healing themselves and relating to each other.
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Praised as "a wise and helpful book" by Frederic Luskin, Ph.D., and celebrated for extraordinary wisdom and practical advice by Steven Mintz, this work is deemed healing and practical for those exhausted by strained parent-child relationships. Hara Estroff Marano finds it realistic and compassionate, while Library Journal calls it unique and groundbreaking. Stephanie Coontz notes it as exceptionally perceptive.
Book Details
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ISBN: 9780061148439
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers Inc
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 12 March 2015
Country: United States
Imprint: William Morrow Paperbacks
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 18.0mm
Width: 135.0mm
Height: 203.0mm
Weight: 245g
Pages: 320
About the Author
Dr. Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized expert in parenting, couples, families, and relationships. He is a Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families. The author of two critically acclaimed books, The Marriage Makeover and The Lazy Husband, he is a frequent contributor to the San Francisco Chronicle, and his advice has been featured in the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, Psychology Today, the Times (London), and elsewhere. He is a frequent guest on the Today show and has appeared on 20/20, Good Morning America, and many other news programs. He lives with his family in the San Francisco Bay area.
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